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Should it take him this long?
| Mon, 12-03-2007 - 10:00am |
I'm in my late 30's and just now rejoining the dating/sex scene after a 5 year hiatus. My new guy ( in his 20s)and I have been having heavy make out sessions the last few weeks and did notice it seems to take him quite awhile to climax through oral and manual stimulation. I chalked it up to him being as nervous as I was, plus he said it's been a year since he's had sex and he says he doesn't masturbate. He prefers cold showers and exercise. We finally had sex over the weekend and it was utterly amazing. 5 hours and 3 times, but my only concern is how long should it take for him to climax?

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All guys are different.......for one thing, he's probably "nervous" and has "performance anxiety".
Did he mention why he doesn't masturbate? Does he feel that he shouldn't -- and if so, why? If he has hangups about masturbation, then he may also have some about sex. If he is struggling with any issues there, it can also make him feel guilty. That can affect his entire sexual experience.
It could also be that he has great control or is just wired that way (to last longer), or it could be nerves from his first encounter with you. I don't think there's anything you can do to control it, but you might have to speak up if it's becoming too tiring or painful for you. Also, since he is lasting so long, you should probably use lube so that you don't dry out.
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Ruth, when I was growing up, there was a saying "alcohol gives the mind ideas that the body can't fulfill"......and that's your b/f's problem.
Hi Ruth welcome to the board!
I saw your post and wanted to chime in.
"I have not been with him long enough to determine if he has a drinking problem or not"
Speaking from experience I don't know how long you've been with him
but a few red flags to look for early on, would be, "getting wasted every time"
"Getting wasted often to the point of not remembering the next day"
And of course "why he drinks?" If its at all used in any way to "escape"
especially "past issues" Run like the wind, cause its never a good thing
That's just my 2 cents
Kareese
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