Should it take him this long?

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Registered: 10-28-2007
Should it take him this long?
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Mon, 12-03-2007 - 10:00am

I'm in my late 30's and just now rejoining the dating/sex scene after a 5 year hiatus. My new guy ( in his 20s)and I have been having heavy make out sessions the last few weeks and did notice it seems to take him quite awhile to climax through oral and manual stimulation. I chalked it up to him being as nervous as I was, plus he said it's been a year since he's had sex and he says he doesn't masturbate. He prefers cold showers and exercise. We finally had sex over the weekend and it was utterly amazing. 5 hours and 3 times, but my only concern is how long should it take for him to climax?

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Registered: 10-28-2007
Thu, 12-13-2007 - 10:23am
I thought most men masterbated too. That kind of threw me. We've been masturbated several times since and he still goes for what seems like forever. We've even engaged in extensive foreplay for up to an hour and he still doesn't climax for 45 mins. to an hour.
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Registered: 12-12-2007
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 6:35am
I find that sometimes when DW is masturbating me I find myself enjoying soooo much that, without thinking about it, hold back on cumming because it feels so good. It is only when I realize that she is switching hands or slowing down that she is getting uncomfortable. Sometimes she gets mad at me when she starts to masturbate me and I think that she wants to have sex but it turns out she only wants to make me cum, I hold back thinking she is just trying to get me going when she finally lets me know that she wants me to cum.
Still though I am not sure I could make it go for an hour that way. Surprisingly, at least for me, my mind plays into how quick I cum. Sometimes I find myself holding back after a few minutes and sometimes I don't have to really try and hold back for 40-50 minutes. I wonder if he is doing this triggers some thoughts in his mind that are "unpleasant". I know this would kill it for me. If I have had a really stressful day I'm not sure I could get going. Well maybe with some encouragement I could. Are you using lube - KY warming jelly feels really good. Hope this helps.
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Registered: 04-13-2007
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 2:33am

That seems like kind of a long time but not really anything extreme. My guy sometimes takes forever too. If it's taking him too long and I start to dry out or something, he will just pull it out and use some spit from him or me and get off with his hand. Works great for him -- it must be that he sometimes wants it a bit tighter than I am in there. Anyhow, it's very cute, he's not the least bit embarrassed about it nor should he be, there's certainly no problem with the guy doing that. Sometimes he just does it for fun, for sure he just basically seems to like to watch it cumming.

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 2:43pm

hi savi


my bf takes a long time too, the 'quickie' in our relationship is about 20 minutes and a 'normal' session lasts for an hour or even longer; I think all guys are different, my

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