silence in the north

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Registered: 11-30-2004
silence in the north
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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:52am
silence is not golden ?!! or is it? so this starts my question,as it goes my wife is not very vocal when making love,she's not complete silence but not as vocal as most women would be,I think? (or I would wish she was more of) sometimes she makes me feel i'm not doing enough,but believe me I give 110% i would sooner get her off then myself I've tried to talk about it with her but she gets real defensive so i don't bring it up and I am vocal(i like to talk dirty) and she doesn't seem to mind..but still it seems like i'm missing something,or am i more worried about stroking my own ego?
But after 20 yrs marriage( i'm 43 shes 42) things tend to get a little routine i think i could set my watch to or sex routine in the bedroom but that's another story.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 8:33pm
No two people are alike, but after a long marriage, it may be you need variety. Not all woman are talkers or screamers. I gasp, moan, whatever "I" feel at the time. She may have been told it's NOT OK to talk or scream, or may be afraid of being heard. So go away on a romantic weekend. Try having sex in different places & NOT only in a bed! Cop a feel in a public place. Experiment with toys, bondage, etc. But most of all, get her to tell you what she likes or doesn't like , or have her write it down if she has trouble verbalizing these things. I'm 51 & have found sex has improved with age. Communication is the key. You need VARIETY. Be creative!
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Registered: 11-30-2004
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 2:12am
my wife with s&m no way that's no going to happen,but I think i came to the realization that it's probable more my issue then her,but it would be nice just once to hear her scream and moan during sex

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