Silly Question of the Month??

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Silly Question of the Month??
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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 10:37am
Ladies, I'm a guy.

Thank you. ;}

Now, I'm a guy who's willing to learn. I'm embarrassingly curious to know what women or what you women like to hear "in bed", make any sense?

What types of things would you advise us 'guys' to focus on? Hmmm...what things should we avoid that we guys do not know of? (reminder: I said that we do not know of!) :)

Of course I could ask the Mrs., but it'd be fun to surprise her rather than bore her with what she already expects when it comes to something like that. Besides, there just may be some ideas that you ladies have that others of you didn't think of either. Hey, can't beat that.

By all means, feel free to compare what you like and what you believe women in general would love to hear. Also, bring on the details, including what you'd like guys to "do" or NOT do as they speak the magic words. Puppy dog face? James Bond confidence? Caveman grunts? Jock lingo?...babe? Please focus on the "words" when detailing.

Very much appreciate it, hopefully we'll all benefit.

:P

:)

 

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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 12:36pm
Geez Para, it will be very difficult to say here. I like pretty raunchy talk in the bedroom. I wanna hear how good I feel inside, I wanna hear what he wants to do to me and what he wants me to do to him, and I wanna hear what a dirty girl I am ;o) What should you avoid? Saying another woman's name rofl. Of course, that goes without saying. I can't really think of what to avoid saying. I even kind of like being told what to do now and then. Not so much being bossed, but seeing DH take charge, very sexy. I love the times where he comes in horny and say were doing such and such and pushes me onto the bed and starts undressing me. I love being ravaged. Have I strayed off topic? Oh man, gotta find DH ROFL.

Leticia

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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 6:43pm

Hey Para, great to see you back.


I like to hear what he's feeling (graphic is great), but I don't like to be asked questions when I'm in the throes of pleasure.

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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 7:00pm
I agree with everything leticiaf said here. It's a turn on to hear what he's going to do to me. Telling her how beautiful her boobs are or how hot she feels down there or holding her breasts in front of a mirror and complimenting how nice they are and rubbing them. Gosh, it's endless. Use your imagination and you probably know how far to go with what to say to her as well. My hubby also likes it when I say "no" so he can spank me for being a bad girl, also a turn on. If I say no a few times or wait a minute, sometimes he'll chase me down and up the stairs - that is fun and makes you feel like two kids. It's thrilling to be chased, I think.


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Registered: 11-30-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 12:16am
I like to hear 'natural' sounds of enjoyment, groans and moans - and perhaps small comments to let me know he likes whats going on (eg- "oh yea, just like that" or "don't stop") I like it when he initiates with simple requests such as "F... Me Baby" :)

If he's comfortable with dirty talk, then thats just fine - but if he's not, and all of a sudden started, I think it'd be more funny than a turn on. I also don't enjoy being called derogatory names during sex (eg: whore) or Mommy is not a good one either! LOL

I don't like to hear excessive loud screaming, it makes me self conscious & uncomfortable because I have children and I live in a half house with neighbors right on the other side of the wall.

Oh, the ultimate turn off - the thing I hate more than anything in the world.... To be asked "Did you cum?" and a close second is asking if I like something while he's doing it. If I DON'T like it, I'd change what we were doing or how we/he was doing it. If I'm letting things go the way they are, then I like them just fine! I don't want to be interviewed mid-enjoyment.

and after we're done, it's always nice to hear how much he enjoyed himself. A simple, 'that was wonderful' or something similar is sufficient. :)

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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 3:33pm
In the early mornings, my husband explains to me in full detail what he wants to do, how he is going to do it, and what he'd like me to wear or what toys (if any) we'll be using. All the while, he is fondling me. I mean, it's just an incredible turn on. He rarely walks out the door and leaves for work without us doing something in bed. The way he holds me and his voice, I can't get enough of him sometimes.
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:15pm
"If you need to know what I like, ask me during early foreplay - but not when I'm breathless with extacy. I do recall once gasping to a previous lover "Oh God....don't make me THINK" lol"

RAOFL!!! THAT was GREAT! LOL!! That is so true when it comes to BOTH genders. LOL!

I appreciate all the input, ladies. Surprised to not hear from others out there on a fun topic like this one.

I think I understand that being wanted through being chased, and I also see the excitement of knowing what your guy is going to do to you later on. You ladies helped a whole lot. Hopefully we'll get more so we guys can uh...well...you know. ;)

Okay, now Yas, you hit something that was a major concern of mine. SOOO many times I read lady posts that sound just like my wife's thoughts: Why don't you "say" more when making love? I think that "...don't make me think..." thing is dead on.

I can't speak for all guys, but I'd be surprised if many or most didn't agree that we feel that way about communicating during love making. Make sense? If we say something, too many times it feels corny and often sounds fake. We're just not James Bond or Cary Grant or anything. I always tell Wifey to talk with her body. She likes that.

I guess I was wondering if any of you felt the same way. Don't we sound fake when we try to strum up words during sex? Any more details from others out there on how or what not to say or do?....DURING sex?

 

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:43pm
After he has undressed me and caressed me to the point of wanting whatever he wants to give me he starts to discribe what he is doing. "Do you like that???", "Next I am going to ..." and so on. I think you get the message and it drives me wild. What really drives me insane is when he knows I am at the brink of probably the big and last "O" of the evening, I'm a multiple "O" person, and he tells me to get ready he's going to make it happen. Then, he stops and starts playing with my nipples or something for a few seconds....lets the intensity level drop a few degrees and then goes for it again. (This is done usually by fingering) He starts again but this time he has moved to between my legs so I can not close them and starts again. Well, I think you can fill in the blanks....I have to beg him to stop!!!
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 2:45pm
EXACTLY. I feel fake, corny, Cheesy trying to talk during sex. A simple Oh yes, or saying my name will suffice from her, and same for me. I cannot say much because it all seems to be so directed, or forced. So, I talk with my body. I ask her to tell me what she likes, through her body. I do like a few words, etc, but mostly just movement, hands on my head, or butt, and lots of wiggling. The more she wiggles, grinds, or grips, the more i feel she is enjoying herself.
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 2:56pm
I too like to hear dirty talk. I like it when a man explicitly says how much he is enjoying it. Perhaps because I am Spanish, I don't find the "c" word offensive. I LOVE when I hear that word!!!! In moderation of course, to me anything goes.

Never go over board!

Once in a while I prefer the sounds of moaning and groaning, it lets me know I'm getting the job done right.

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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:02pm
I don't like when my hubby uses the "c" word so he usually will use the "p" word instead - in exchange. I LOVE when he uses that word - drive me wild!

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