Simultaneous O's

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Simultaneous O's
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Sun, 04-18-2004 - 11:09pm
So many erotic books, sex scenes in movies, etc. portray men and women having orgasms at the same time (or nearly so), usually during intercourse. I'm just curious as to how often that actually happens. I know many women don't O during intercourse, so obviously it wouldn't happen in that situation, but I'm just looking for a few of your experiences. Are you able to time your O's so that you and your partner cum together? Does it happen occasionally but not often? Is it something you care about, something to be aimed for--or does it take away from the experience because you're only conscious of your own pleasure rather than your partner's?

I personally have never had intercourse...I'm just curious about the future. :-) Thanks for your input.

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Sun, 04-18-2004 - 11:31pm
Erotica, porn, movies, etc....isn't reality. And, that rarely happens in a new relationship. When you've been with someone a LONG time, and you know each other's bodies, and their timing, it can happen. It helps if the woman is multiorgasmic, too. By the time he's ready, she's right in the groove with him.

Is it something to "aim" for, no, not really. Is it nice, yes, but certainly not essential! It takes nothing away from the pleasure, because even though you're "into it", you're also conscious of what your partner is doing.

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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 1:47am

I have done it before and find that for me,

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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 10:17am
I guess I'm the freak around here in that I enjoy simultaneous orgasms. When she orgasms, she squeezes her PC muscles up and loose like crazy, writhes, quivers and makes so many sounds so much so that it ends up sending me over the top. Then I orgasms and my penis pulses back against her squeezes and for a few seconds the spasms just goes back & forth.

The physics behind this also increases the enjoyment for me at this point (I freely admit my geekness here). One of the functions of the female orgasm is to more easily pump the guy's semen into her uterus by opening up the cervix and sucking up the pooled semen from the fornix area. The main reason semen is sticky and gooey at first is to stick to the fornix area long enough to be sucked in. Semen generally gets more fluid after a few minutes and then oozes to wherever gravity sends it to.

In my mind I'm imagining my semen spurting straight onto her hungrily sucking cervix.

After we come down we just lie still, motionless in each other's arms. We get aftershocks, but for the most part, it's just a slow "touchdown" back to reality.

This is why I like it so much. Apologies in advance if I grossed anyone out.


Edited 4/20/2004 1:27 am ET ET by muttley44

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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 4:45pm
My DH is better able to time his orgasm to coincide with mine rather than visa versa. He responds to my movements and sounds and can adjust his speed, etc. much better than I can.

Simultaneous orgasms are great but they don't happen very often for most of us. Too many factors can interfere and distract from the rhythm, mood, intensity, etc. It's nice to try for but isn't necessary to have a great experience. All that matters to us is that we're happy and satisfied afterwards. HOW we get there is not important.

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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 4:48pm
We have done it many times, but I do it for DH. I don't get as much out of it, his different rythym when he orgasms takes away from mine.

Leticia

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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 9:35am
There have been times it has happened and I think it's great, really turns both of us on more, but we don't try to plan
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 8:43pm
I need oral stimulation to orgasm. That kinda leaves out initial simultaniuos orgasms, unless I orgasm the second time, which I do much of the time. I really do prefer that we not orgasm together. I really do need to be in control of my lower extremities when he 'does his thing'.....hmm. He's big, I'm on the small side, and it's nessesary to control the depth of his thrusts. I'm not able to do that, or maybe can't control own self, if we orgasm together. His penetration can hit my cervix, if to hard, is not pleasant at all. I'd rather be in charge.
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Wed, 04-21-2004 - 6:57am
You are the first male I've heard describing the incredible feeling of your woman's contractions when you are inside her. Some women have referred to it, but others say their men don't feel it. This happens with me and my DF and it's fantastic! She has strong PC muscles from Kegels and her contractions are usually unmistakeable and hard to miss. She's not very noisy and doesn't writhe much so this is my main way of telling that she has orgasmed. She orgasms several times every time we have intercourse, so I have a lot of opportunities to feel this and tune in to her. It takes me much longer to orgasm, so she can almost always time her orgasm to coincide with mine.

We do mutual oral, but I rarely orgasm this way, and we find that at some point we just need to focus on her (or me) because it's difficult to concentrate on doing oral when you yourself are orgasming. This is why intercourse works better for having simultaneous orgasms.

taoist.

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Wed, 04-21-2004 - 2:09pm
I don't want to bruise any ego's here, but perhaps the reason why some feel it and some don't is because of different penis thickness? My dh is fairly thick, and he can feel my contractions but it's not as strong as you are describing. I do kegels regularly and know I have good tone. Just a thought anyway, as I have no info on this.

Leticia

Edited to say I was so wrong LOL. Just asked DH and he said yes, they are much stronger. He has never mentioned it before, so I assumed there wasn't a big difference. My fault *blush*


Edited 4/21/2004 2:26 pm ET ET by leticiaf

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Wed, 04-21-2004 - 7:28pm
Why should egos be bruised? You're implying thicker penis equals more feeling, right? Actually I was attributing most of it to her doing Kegels, but come to think of it, she has always done kegels, and I've noticed her contractions much more in the last six months, and my thickness certainly hasn't changed. And if your DH can feel your contractions, doesn't that mean you are having an orgasm during intercourse?

taoist.

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