Sister in Law : Need women's input

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Sister in Law : Need women's input
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 6:45pm
I really have the hots for my sister in law and I have a feeling she feels the same. How can I find out, ie what can I say that would still leave me an out?

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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 6:51pm
Why would you even want to find out?

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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 6:53pm
I hate to say it, Frank, but have you considered what would happen if she is just being friendly and you put your, ummm,... foot in it? What if she tells her sister - your wife? Is it really worth going there? Can't you just take it as a compliment and and keep your dick out of there?
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 7:07pm
She is my wifes' sister. Here's the situation: We did things together like movies, dinners etc while dating. After we got married she revealed more...private stuff and became mildly flirtatious, innocent stuff. At one point in a private conversation she admitted to having an interest in a "sex toys", I was shocked but aroused to think this "soccer mom" would admit to it. At parties, we're both in the kitchen just always bumping into each other and everytime we greet she gives me a tight hug and a kiss even though she lives down the street. Not too long ago, we had a long conversation at a family event, the conversation was all about work, family etc. It was the magnetism that was going on that was arousing me. We kept looking at each other as if we were lovers in high school, smiling constantly and blushing. When the evening was over, we looked around and felt a little odd but when we said our goodbyes, we held much longer than usual while our pelvises pressed hard against each other, there was no way that she couldn't have felt my erection. Still I want her and I'd like to find out.
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 7:10pm
Yeah I know what you mean but when I feel the temptation, it's gosh...too erotic
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 7:41pm
Been there, done that. Is there anyway you can see her alone like at work or home, there's gotta be an excuse you can come up with. If she feels like you do it shouldn't take much. I've had sex with one of my husband's brothers and I felt the same. We flirted until he happened to drop by the house when I was alone saying he left his phone. I suggested a drink which he cashed in on. I just mentioned I needed to go change out of my work clothes and thats' all it took.
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 7:42pm

Do you have a brother?


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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:06pm

Why do you have to act upon your urges? You're not a victim of your penis. You are married. This means that when you feel an...erotic temptation, you have the balls to say no.

Or it's supposed to, anyway.

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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:14pm
Been there, done that. I know you men, your gonna cheat anyway. Given that, I suggest you have sex with her only if she is married. Having sex with someone that is married is less risky, if she is young and bubbly, no. Suggest a massage for those tired bones and see what she says, either she'll say no or yes. If yes, just look at her the way you say you do and the rest will take it's course. Tell me what happens!!
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 9:02pm

I bet your brother will be thrilled. I've always wanted a brother like you that could look after my wife while I was away for the day.

I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, but sometimes people get hurt by this sort of thing when it stops being a fantasy and becomes reality. We all have crushes from time to time. Everyone does. But in your case you and her are playing a dangerous game with some pretty serious consequences. You've got an advantage here because you're getting some advice from other people before doing it. And my advice is to feel flattered by the attention, enjoy the little ego boost and leave it at that.

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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 1:10am

Sorry Frank, but I always get suspicious when I see a post like this on a woman's website....just seems a little too obvious to me.

You know what the likely ramifications would be for pursuing an affair with a SIL and you know the likely opinions of most women about cheating, particularly, with a family member!




Edited 4/19/2005 1:29 am ET ET by katmandoo2001

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