'Size doesn't matter' contradictions

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'Size doesn't matter' contradictions
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Sun, 04-20-2008 - 10:18am

There are some women who say size doesn't matter. Now I can believe that, but

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:06pm

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I'm not an overly emotional person. I don't allow myself to develop feelings about someone until I've got down a checklist of requirements. I generally abide by the "third date" rule when it comes to sex, and if a person has developed feelings by the 3rd date, I'd say that person is rushing things.

Also, because my needs are so specific (childfree, experienced in BDSM, etc), I almost exclusively utilize online dating, and I generally ask about penis size prior to the first date.

I would no more allow myself to develop feelings for a man with a tiny penis than I would for a smoker, a man who had children/wanted them, or a man who didn't love dogs. I would simply not bother meeting a man who didn't meet my standards.

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I do not believe in marriage, co-habitation, or monogamy. If one of my long term partners had something like this happen, I would be saddened....but I also participate exclusively in open relationships, so I would meet my penis needs through swinging and casual encounters. However, I don't want to start OUT in that stituation of not being 100% satisfied with my partner.

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There are women out there who either don't mind or who don't like sex that much to begin with. There's a place for everyone.

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Well I do my kegals 5x a time faithfully, but should it happen, they now have surgery for that.

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I am child-free by choice and have had a tubal. However, if some weird freak thing caused my vagina to be ruined beyond use, I would have no problem with my partner (not husband) meeting his needs through other girls. As I said, I enjoy open relationships. I have no problem providing him with oral and anal intercourse while his 2nd girl provides him with vaginal stimulation.

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Edited 4/20/2008 3:08 pm ET by thestral
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Registered: 11-26-2004
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:18pm

I can see that you are

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:26pm

You wrote: "I agree that many women are in denial when they say size doesn't matter...or maybe some of them have never been with a guy who has a big one."


Of course that happens at times. The others posting in this thread somehow seem to think that

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:36pm

I think been-there is the one I put on ignore on this board. He's the one who kept going on and on and on about penis size, right? The one who kept quoting statistics and the one who tried to "baffle us with BS" and his "knowledge" of human anatomy and all that, right? Have you ever noticed how many really messed up people there are on the Internet? How insecure and downright sad they are? But I suppose the Internet is the best place for them, because it keeps them off the street and away from others.


*shakes her head at the futility of trying to debate with hopeless people like been-there*

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:40pm

In the coworker scenario, I would say that a wise person has to weigh compatibility vs attraction. You can't control being attracted to someone, but you can control acting upon that attraction.

As I said, I generally utilize online dating, but if I did find a coworker who was attractive and interesting, I would try to engage him in conversation to ascertain his opinion on things like kinky sex, religion, pets, children, etc. If he seemed compatible on those things, I'd then invoke the 3 date rule and would not allow myself to go ga-ga over the guy until I found out whether he had a properly sized penis and whether he was capable of doing the things I need in bed (hardcore bondage, s/m, humiliation, etc.)

Sexual compatibility is paramount, and no amount of feelings mitigates that.

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:44pm

So you want to go and get personal in a very ugly way. Keep me off the streets eh. Good grief. I try to backup what I type with studies, charts, polls, anatomy analysis, etc. I have a very studious side to me and do not like unobjectivity. At least I do try to debate fairly and not resort to what you just did. Thanks though, for you have ensured I won't ever post about this subject again.


Bye. I do wish happiness to everyone.

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Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:57pm

"That doesn't mean mild or moderate levels ( or strong) levels of caring don't exist. It just means it's not an issue."


I don't know

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 02-12-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 4:03pm

Mrs. P, please don't denigrate the "Looney Tunes Folks" by associating them with this "size" thread.


Misty, maybe you could get the CM's to make the word "size" persona non grada to the iVillage filter like "rooster.


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Registered: 02-17-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 4:03pm

My dear Mrs. P....


I am waiting for the water boarding technique to be employed next.....until we all admit to agree with him.


I refuse to argue with something that is so trivial that it doesn't bear intellectual merit.

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Sun, 04-20-2008 - 4:06pm

Been,


I hope you do not leave.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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