'Size doesn't matter' contradictions

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Registered: 07-05-2005
'Size doesn't matter' contradictions
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Sun, 04-20-2008 - 10:18am

There are some women who say size doesn't matter. Now I can believe that, but

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 7:09pm

Hi Steve,


As I understand it, the "Debate the Difference" board which was later renamed to "Battle of the Sexes" has long been dead.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 06-29-2006
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 7:37pm
Well, I, for one, think we have all badly mistreated you, been -there.
I think it is time for me to come clean and admit that I have known , all along, that a man doesn't really have to settle for whatever size penis he was provided for, by genetics.
I am quite certain that there are manual methods that one can use to increase, significantly, the length and girth of his penis, if he so chooses to do so.
At the same time, it isn't really something that somebody who is selfish, such as I, would care to take the time and effort to do.
This has been a sore point in the relationship with any number of the women of whom I have had relations, but I never felt the need to comply with their requests.
Personally, I think it each and every individuals responsibility to achieve their own orgasm, and it shouldn't be left up to his or her partner's efforts for them to do so.
NMOO/JK
once.
once.
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Registered: 02-17-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 8:27pm

No, I think the point has been made several times that intelligent banter and conversation

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 8:27pm
You know, Steve, Sir, the size of a man's equipment is very important! A girl needs to take size into consderation when T/they go shopping for whips and bondage racks. Master and I were discussing earlier this week that He needs a larger whip. It's so good to be in a BDSM relationship where the size of a man's genitals doesn't matter (unless I was a Domme looking to fit Her male sub with one of the Nine Gates of Hell. I wonder if those are available in different sizes?). Men and their penis obsessions! It's a wonder that we were able to move out of the caves, with all those men sitting around the fire, one hand on a mammoth leg bone and the other on their penises, comparing sizes.
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 8:37pm
I didn't realise it for a long time. All I had ever heard was that nothing can be done. What gave me the push to at least try and see was when by accident I found out that a SO was trying to find out if penis enlargement pills work. It hurt my feelings but at least it caused me to look into it more. From study of
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Registered: 05-20-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 9:46pm

Perhaps the question should be;


Would one choose a small or average endowed man, if he didn’t know how to use it, over a man who was large or over endowed and didn’t know how to use it?


I guess the question lies more with separating the preference in object rather than relating the object to a preference in experience.


Disclosure: YES,

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 10:44pm

I have many interests.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 6:18am
been-there,

Mathematics are something that I understand quite well and use everyday, and at a level considerably more advanced than college algebra. I have never found, however, that these skills have any application whatsoever in my sexual relationship — or my relationship outside the bedroom, for that matter — with my wife.



We often find with the problems and issues that people bring to these boards, that sexual issues are not the root cause of whatever is taking place, but are rather a symptom of larger issues that are taking place in other aspects of the relationship. It's also true that when a woman has a less than satisfying sexual experience with a less well endowed male, the size of his equipment gives her something concrete to point to, when in fact what she may actually be complaining about, without actually saying so, is that she was not satisfied with what he did with the equipment he was given.



It sounds as if you've had some negative sexual and/or relationship experiences along the way that have been attributed somehow to your endowment? If so, I'm very sorry to hear that, but without knowing anything about your situation I can't help but wonder whether by focusing on the literal statements made by the woman (women?) in question, you've missed the underlying point. I also have to wonder whether, rather than studying statistical analyses of penis size data and investigating methods of penis enlargement, your time might have been better spent exploring a site such as the-clitoris.com, learning about female sexuality and arousal, and picking up tips for pleasing a woman sexually in the process?



I also have to wonder whether a large part of the exasperation you bear the brunt of whenever you choose to raise this subject here is because posters are sensing that you may have missed the forest for the trees when it comes to penises and penis size, and that when posters try and point this out to you, you compound the error by focusing on the semantics of their statements rather than hearing the underlying message?



Peace be with you.




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Registered: 07-05-2005
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 10:44pm

I'm aware. I consider and study everything. Objectivity is important to me -

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 6:02am
These boards, and the advice that people give here, are for the most part about relationships, and relationships for the most part simply aren't objective. Someone who is in the flush of a new relationship, and in the process of falling in love with a new partner, will tend to see everyone about that partner in the best possible light. If years later they sour on the relationship and choose to end it, they will then tend to accentuate all the negatives about their partner. Their partner is the same person at both points in the relationship, but the perception of their partner is different at each point, and perception in relationships is often reality. Many of the people who post here are in our 40's, and have been married for a considerable length of time. Much of making a marriage, or any relationship, successful over the long term is about making a conscious choice to continue seeing one's partner in the best possible light, accentuating their positive traits and minimizing and excusing the negatives.




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