Size Matters

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Size Matters
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 8:37pm
I have to be honest I read these posts alot and it is really for one reason. I want to reaffirm that size doesn't matter. It really seems like the politically correct thing to say it that it doesn't, but even to the woman that say it doesn't they seem sway toward that if given the choice they would choose above average over average. Well I'm 41, 6'1", 180 in great condition, I'm told good looking, father of 3, mostly unhappily married (more of a roomate and great mother to my children- she still looks great), 1000% faithful, employed, strong christian, financially in good shape, but only about 4.5" long and maybe 1.25" girth. Yes it works and is ready to go, but man it hurts to be this size. Everyday at the YMCA I do the heterosexual quick scan to see if maybe maybe I could to bigger than somebody else (we all do that), but it is rare. Bottom line is that is hurts, and as much as I try to be a good, tough, mans-man. I never really feel that way because I know I'm hung light. I know that even tough my wife tells me its fine and I know I'm suppose to believe it.... What really upsets me is that I can't change it. I know those male enhancement pills are lies and I know there is nothing that will give me the great feeling of knowing I gave my wife the great feeling that some of these 7"-10" guys could. Yes I do all the other things to try to satisfy her, but I know I can't do that fill-her thing. She had a big guy in her first husband (I saw a picture (of him naked) in a box she was tossing out when she moved here 11 years ago. Otherwise she would never mention that, but I can tell she tries not to make this matter, but the fact is it does matter. I know some of you will write and try to pick the chins of guys like me up and that sweet, but you really can't. Because the fact is size does matter and for those without the size we hurt. I am not a wuss I'm just hung like one. For as much pain as I have let this cause me over the years I worry the same about my little 5 year old son who I pray will not suffer from this as much as I have about this, but I suppose he will. I know there are worse things in life and this is small in comparason to many many other things, but I do wonder why not being hung well has to be a factor in what kind of man I am or what kind of man I feel like. I would love to be able to give my wife that full feeling.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 12:50pm

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 12:58pm
Sorry coffee I don't follow ... I think on another board I said, sure, _all things being equal_ I prefer a big fat one ... but that is far, far, far trumped by whether or not the possessor of it is a good, moral, likable, attractive, funny person or not. All things are never equal! All I was saying is, we all have things about ourselves which are all but impossible to change (eg, for me, my shortness and no-boob-ness) and we kind of should grin and bear it. Without a doubt, if I adore the guy I can have an immense amount of fun with any penis. It's not like I have to try extra hard to have fun with a smaller one, don't worry. I'm kinda pissed at myself if something I have said annoys you ... you don't deserve it.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:05pm
Size does matter in the sexual arena. But you sound like you are a very nice upstanding moral guy who has a lot going for him. Why base and judge yourself so much on your penis size? Let it go. You cannot make it bigger anyway. Why not try other avenues with your wife as far as giving her that "filling" feeling. You have fingers, hands and a tongue - get creative with those. There are toys that would give her that "filling" feeling as well. Get active with those hands and fingers!
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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:34pm
I agree with icoffeemug. Like the original poster said, his wife says it doesn't matter and he supposed to believe it and he supposed to believe it. Why do you think he would feel this way? I think when women state something like you said "It really and truly d/n matter", it really does more harm that good. At least if all women were really honest about it, men would know where they stand and that's a lot easier compared to always guessing if someone is giving false information.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=15262.8

Here is where you talk about vaginal orgasms being intense, fat penises, and deep penetration.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=14986.37

And here is one where you state how much you like how big your BF penis is and how it does matter.

Ultimately, I have no problem with your preferences. However, in the future, I think it would more helpful to state just that.

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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:40pm


In your orignal message you stated the above. This makes no sense to me. The way I'm reading this is if a woman is interested in the a guy for sex then size matters, but if she becomes interested in same guy for a relationship, size will not matter?

Um... I'm not buying it. Now, if it were said that size woudn't be as important to her and she would deal with his size for the sake of the relationship, then I could go along with that. Ultimately, your preferences do not change because you get into a relationship.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:59pm

I'm not sure why you don't think it makes sense.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:14pm
the good thing about all this concern over penis size that men have is that it is proof that they really care about pleasing their woman. now if only we can change their thinking that the penis is the main key to pleasure. what evidence can be more powerful than the fact that most women do not orgasm from intercourse alone.

yes, penis size is a factor. but it is only one factor. from personal experience, i just want to emphasize how skewed the OPs perception is. he emphasized how wonderful it would be to be 7-10 inches! for me 7 is bordering on too big, and anything bigger will hurt me depending on the position. now why would you want that?

size matters, but you are really really blowing this out of proportion!

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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 3:34pm
I understand what you are saying, but I still stand by my original post. To be more graphic, if a woman enjoys a thick penis, that preference does not change once she enters a relationship with anyone. It doesn't mean she'll make a decision on that preference, but her preference remains the same and you cannot have a preference for something that does not matter.
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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 4:00pm
Thank you wary__reader i was just about to link the chirsty la1 posts too! i have seen many people like this on another MB they post the "this matters, that matters, i would never be with a person that has that" blah blah then when someone makes a thread talking about it they turn into a different poster but that’s what happens in Mb's people change thier personas

I am glad there is someone on the same page as me :P


Just like your reply towards a quote you thought does not make sense i always questioned the infamous saying "if all things were the same women would pick the guys with the bigger penis"

Huh? i thought size does not matter or whatever...lost my trail of thought lol

Yea sugerbeat i always laugh when i hear women say guys don't care about that. Men want to know if what they got will satisfy a women and not make her laugh at him or make fun of him....... its not a ego thing

True, if we learn that the penis is just a little factor in sex there would hardly be any penis size topics but with all the stories you see on the internet about how small he was, how big he was, this matters, that matters, i could not feel him, I felt full.

Can you really blame men for worrying about it and thinking thats the number one factor in bed?


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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 5:07pm
This is generating waaaaaay too much concern. The OP obviously has a ton going for him and I think one should be VERY thankful for the good stuff. What if you were some redneck sitting in a trailer park worshiping Satan with no high school diploma or prospects and you had a huge c*ck but no cool nice girls to celebrate it with? What'd be so great about that? ;-) I'm sure it would be even more frustrating.

I would also say that I think the OP has an exaggerated idea of what he's up against. There are very, very few penises much over 7" and, say 2" wide based on what I've seen. Yes, they apparently do exist. But good heavens by no means are most of your fellow males packing anything of the sort. Fret not.