Size Matters

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Size Matters
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 8:37pm
I have to be honest I read these posts alot and it is really for one reason. I want to reaffirm that size doesn't matter. It really seems like the politically correct thing to say it that it doesn't, but even to the woman that say it doesn't they seem sway toward that if given the choice they would choose above average over average. Well I'm 41, 6'1", 180 in great condition, I'm told good looking, father of 3, mostly unhappily married (more of a roomate and great mother to my children- she still looks great), 1000% faithful, employed, strong christian, financially in good shape, but only about 4.5" long and maybe 1.25" girth. Yes it works and is ready to go, but man it hurts to be this size. Everyday at the YMCA I do the heterosexual quick scan to see if maybe maybe I could to bigger than somebody else (we all do that), but it is rare. Bottom line is that is hurts, and as much as I try to be a good, tough, mans-man. I never really feel that way because I know I'm hung light. I know that even tough my wife tells me its fine and I know I'm suppose to believe it.... What really upsets me is that I can't change it. I know those male enhancement pills are lies and I know there is nothing that will give me the great feeling of knowing I gave my wife the great feeling that some of these 7"-10" guys could. Yes I do all the other things to try to satisfy her, but I know I can't do that fill-her thing. She had a big guy in her first husband (I saw a picture (of him naked) in a box she was tossing out when she moved here 11 years ago. Otherwise she would never mention that, but I can tell she tries not to make this matter, but the fact is it does matter. I know some of you will write and try to pick the chins of guys like me up and that sweet, but you really can't. Because the fact is size does matter and for those without the size we hurt. I am not a wuss I'm just hung like one. For as much pain as I have let this cause me over the years I worry the same about my little 5 year old son who I pray will not suffer from this as much as I have about this, but I suppose he will. I know there are worse things in life and this is small in comparason to many many other things, but I do wonder why not being hung well has to be a factor in what kind of man I am or what kind of man I feel like. I would love to be able to give my wife that full feeling.
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Registered: 01-11-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 10:15pm
From a guy that is 4" ERECT, I have gotten used to my body. In school, etc, I went about my business. My 4" penis is what the ALMIGHTY gave me; who am I to complain. In fact, I had to learn to be a better lover BECAUSE of only 4" penis.

My dad's penis was larger than mine. Therefore, your son may NOT follow your body type.

Mac

 

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Registered: 07-30-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 2:01am
My 2 cents - You guys who keep complaining about your small penises: Yes you are whiners, and yes you are wusses. I mean, if you didn't have complexes before, you're working as hard as possible to generate them. Really, keep the self pity to yourselves. WHat is going to change? nothing. Does it really matter? No. Just live with it. Nothing turns a minor insecurity into a big all consuming issue like getting all angry and sappy about it. I have not always felt really confident about my size, but I can recognize it as a silly immature issue in myself and I don't force it onto other people. I am also getting a lot of anger vibes towards female posters from the whiny boys. WHat are you mad at them for? They try to make you feel better, and you insinuate that they are liers? So what if they have expressed a preference before? News flash: We can't all be the epitomy of masculine virility to women. Get over it. Its part of life and not anyone's fault. If you want to be more masculine, try less whining. Try projecting confidence. Try not blaming women for the shortcomings you see in yourself.

I think that the message from most of the female posters is pretty clear: They appreciate large penises, but consider penis size only one of many qualities that makes a suitable partner. THat's it. Its very simple. Its not contradictory or an oxymoron or anything besides a simple straitforward opinion. If Miss Princeton enjoys her big batted, sperm spewing, urine spraying man machine then good for her. And if she thinks that penis size is not hugely important than accept that. The two opinions are not mutually exclusive.


-Phat

P.S. - Miss Princeton: tell your dude to sit down. If I'm at someone else's house and I'm afraid that I'll get sprayback (ie toilet is too low, or bladder pressure is high) then I sit down. It's not unmanly, it's just common courtesy. If urine is not all going into the toilet then it rusts the pipes and rots the floor and can wreck the paint and drywall. In some apartment buildings in Europe, men are contractually bound to go sitting down because it is such a maintenance problem. If I'm at my own house, than I just go outside since it saves on water and recycles nitrogen. Ah, the joys of country living.

PPS-Your guy might be urinating like a rusty pressure washer because of sex. Sex makes men have irregular urine streams. I have no idea why. There is a funny scene about that in the Jim Carey/Rene Zelweger movie "Me, Myself, and Irene" Or is it Ilene? Anyway, after sex is also a good time to sit down.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 5:00am
phatgenus I kind of agree with you but only to a point...I don't really blame guys that are worried about their penis size because of the fact that from my observations most guys become insecure after reading a Mb with women saying the stuff that I kind of quoted geez I think the op got the "feel full" quote from a women that posted on this or another MB…..heck you can just search thought here and see some women's posts I even mentioned one of them in this topic.

the argument is all "moot" really... if one side acts differently and knows what they are talking about then the other side would not feel insecure and not make continuous topics...just as I kind of said in my last post these topics pop up for a reason....there is a cause and effect


Simple really


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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 2:00pm
ummm christy why are you calling me names? i was not even talking to you nor do i have any issue about my size......i am just stating facts. why are you offended by it?
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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 4:00pm
Sorry, I really didn't intend anything ad hominem ... I just thought you were carrying on even after I pointed out that it's not your small c*cks that bug us, it's your endless fussing about them! I'm sure you are good looking and have a ton going for you -- so, as they say, accentuate the positive!
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 4:47pm
Sorry, but I beg to differ. We all have "preferences".....My "ideal" man would be 6'4", blond with blue eyes. I meet a man who's 5'10", brown hair and brown eyes, but we have chemistry, he's a wonderful person and everything I want in a man EXCEPT his height and coloring. Guess what? My "preferences" just changed.

The same goes for everything else in life. We like, or we prefer certain things. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. We deal with it.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 5:24pm
Ok..... and I said the reason why guys are fussing about them and that you really can't blame them....... well my theory why.

Funny thing I saw on a television show that basically talks about human sexuality. The host said that only 30% or less of men are happy about their size........interesting

I guess this can be true..... On a men’s Mb that I visit I have seen so many guys asking if the size they have is ok and majority of them fall in the average 5-6 inch range where majority of men are.


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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 6:22pm
Ok I guess we can agree to disagree. I do believe you'll accept something other than your preference, but I don't believe people's prefereces change.

I believe that if someone meets someone they like, they would like that new person to be their preference and will do or say things to perpetuate this belief. Women are especially good at this.

I read an article from a pyschologist a fews year back that said something similar. They were catloging sexual preferences and as women got older and they noticed their sexual preferences started to change. So they asked some of these women what caused their preferences to change. Their response was "Well, that's what's out there at my age. Do I have any other choice"?

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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 6:34pm
This is getting off topic a bit, but my only problem with your original post was that it was misleading. As I said in my original post, I really don't care what your preferences are as long as were all honest about them.

In past posts you described how much you like size and that's great. I happy you found someone that fits the bill. But then to come back and say it doesn't matter at all -- I felt that was disingenuous. If you had something like, "Yeah, I like 'em big, but it's not the most important thing in the world", then I would have never replied to your original message.

The bottom line for me is that we all come here to share information and, if we're lucky, get a few answers too. But if I feel I'm being misled, what's the point of posting here?

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 7:06pm
But don't you see? His big c*ck is just icing on the cake. I'd still be dating him regardless. I certainly didn't seek him out and sleep with him because he's well endowed!!! That would be insane. I couldn't care less, BUT as I said if he had a complex over such a thing (or, as I said, for the fact that he's bald or wears glasses or has slightly imperfect teeth, etc.), I am sure I wouldn't be dating him.