Size Matters

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Size Matters
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 8:37pm
I have to be honest I read these posts alot and it is really for one reason. I want to reaffirm that size doesn't matter. It really seems like the politically correct thing to say it that it doesn't, but even to the woman that say it doesn't they seem sway toward that if given the choice they would choose above average over average. Well I'm 41, 6'1", 180 in great condition, I'm told good looking, father of 3, mostly unhappily married (more of a roomate and great mother to my children- she still looks great), 1000% faithful, employed, strong christian, financially in good shape, but only about 4.5" long and maybe 1.25" girth. Yes it works and is ready to go, but man it hurts to be this size. Everyday at the YMCA I do the heterosexual quick scan to see if maybe maybe I could to bigger than somebody else (we all do that), but it is rare. Bottom line is that is hurts, and as much as I try to be a good, tough, mans-man. I never really feel that way because I know I'm hung light. I know that even tough my wife tells me its fine and I know I'm suppose to believe it.... What really upsets me is that I can't change it. I know those male enhancement pills are lies and I know there is nothing that will give me the great feeling of knowing I gave my wife the great feeling that some of these 7"-10" guys could. Yes I do all the other things to try to satisfy her, but I know I can't do that fill-her thing. She had a big guy in her first husband (I saw a picture (of him naked) in a box she was tossing out when she moved here 11 years ago. Otherwise she would never mention that, but I can tell she tries not to make this matter, but the fact is it does matter. I know some of you will write and try to pick the chins of guys like me up and that sweet, but you really can't. Because the fact is size does matter and for those without the size we hurt. I am not a wuss I'm just hung like one. For as much pain as I have let this cause me over the years I worry the same about my little 5 year old son who I pray will not suffer from this as much as I have about this, but I suppose he will. I know there are worse things in life and this is small in comparason to many many other things, but I do wonder why not being hung well has to be a factor in what kind of man I am or what kind of man I feel like. I would love to be able to give my wife that full feeling.
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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 7:26pm
Yes wary__reader basically summed up the reason why i replied because... it’s misleading. I always point out both men and women that post like that in MBs....and when it happens it’s always the same replies

"oh you must have a small penis"

"ha your just trying to suck up to the women that post here"

"hahaha you must be under 6 feet since you were offended by what i posted before"

huh?... geez you have a little discussion then you get accused of being in the same boat as the subject just because your talking in the topic or pointed out something :/

I too would have not replied to her if she posted what you wrote. Everyone has preferences the only thing that irritates me is when the person is being misleading, bsing or their only intent was to act narcissistic and make people insecure

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"The bottom line for me is that we all come here to share information and, if we're lucky, get a few answers too. But if I feel I'm being misled, what's the point of posting here?"

I totally agree with what you said.


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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 8:44pm
what??? lol sorry i don't need too make another account.... besides if you don't believe me i am sure one of the mods would be glad to point out that we don't have the same ip. Or anything else in common for that matter

geez since two people agree about something they have to be the same person :/

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Registered: 07-30-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 12:40am
"My "ideal" man would be 6'4", blond with blue eyes." - that is so cool. I never meet women who like blonde guys best. Finally! Now I don't have to start a thread where I mope because women refuse to admit that they like dark haired guys so much better that I will never be loved. Whew! Tragedy avoided. I would hate to have to tell everyone else what they themselves are thinking and try to give them their opinions because that is hard work and annoying to everyone.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 11:32am
Poor baby! Which part is bothering you? Blonde hair? That CAN be fixed, as opposed to some of the other "shortcomings" guys worry about. A bottle of Nice 'n Easy, and you're in business, and the women will be flocking to your door.

Hair color? These days, it could be orange or purple! Then again, in MY age group, I'm just happy if they HAVE hair! ;) OOPS, probably shouldn't say that.....now I've ruined the life of some poor bald guy......truth be known, I don't CARE if they have hair, either. I always thought Telly Savalas and Yul Brynner were pretty hot guys!

I'm glad I made your day, and saved you from a lifetime of suffering!

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Registered: 07-02-2003
In reply to: rj2001
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 9:40am
Ha! You and Phatgenes are great, it's nice to see people sum up what the rest of us are thinking so succinctly. I guess I'll just never understand what exactly it is people like that are trying to gain by micro-analyzing others' responses. Searching for the tiniest "flaws" that they perceive in disagreeing posts to further their self-pitying agendas doesn't seem like all that constructive a way to pass the time, but that's just me.
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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 12:42pm
hahaha I was not aware that I was one of the people that both your remarks were strangely directed too.......lol but now I know and "knowing is half the battle!!".


"that they perceive in disagreeing posts to further their self-pitying agendas doesn't seem like all that constructive a way to pass the time, but that's just me."

I have a self-pity agenda nohbuddi? hmmm that’s new


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Registered: 07-02-2003
In reply to: rj2001
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:59pm
Man, paranoid much? What makes you think you had anything to do with my comment?
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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 7:34pm
Not only am I sticking with what I and other similar posts have already stated, but I am also curious about something else.

What advice would all of you have for a couple who actually WASN'T satisfied because of small size issues? In other words, for those couples that deal with penis sizes too small to even feel, REGARDLESS Kama Sutra positions/techniques, what would you or COULD you possibly suggest to help them out?

This particular OP has concerns that many of us feel he shouldn't have, but what about those other ones who aren't even as fortunate as HIM? This message board has FANTASTIC points of views that always intrigue everybody, so I'm very curious how THIS board family views this situation I just introduced.

Thanks in advance everybody.

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

C  H  A  R  A  C  T  E  R

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 8:31pm
I would suggest they pleasure each other manually, orally, and have intercourse for him if he enjoys it and can get something out of it.

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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: rj2001
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 4:16am
Well, the Kama Sutra also states that a large sized man should be paired with a large sized woman. If the women is large and the man is small or vice versa, this will result in dissatisfaction if I remember correctly.

As for a women viewing a man as small, I really only see three options:

1. The man can get excited about it and want to date her.

2. The man can be indifferent towards it.

3. The man can be turned off by it and want to dump her.

If you've chosen number 1 then perfect, although she may not think the same of you :)

If you've chosen number 2 then you probably are not reading this message.

If you've chosen number 3 then stop complaining about it and dump her or bump yourself up to number two.

All options are equally valid in my opinion. :)