the "size" topic....

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the "size" topic....
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 1:41pm
i have been reading alot of posts here and i see alot of debate about the size of vaginas. i see alot of people say that all vaginas are the same and "one size fits all" and stuff like that but i totally disagree. i think every woman is different. i have talked to women friends and i openly talk to my SO about this. alot of women aslo say that it has to do with how arroused you are and i also dont agree with this! i am one of those women who gets exterememly wet but even so i am still tight! my SO only uses 1 finger during foreplay and so i asked him "why?" and his reply was "because you have a lil coochie" i told him i wanted him to use 2 fingers so saturday night he did and i asked him what it felt like and he said he felt like he was hurting me because it was so tight around his fingers. in another post some people thought that body size has to do with vagina size and i agree this is not the case as it also is not with men. my SO is 5'10 and 150lbs and is a lil over 9! i am 5'7 (tall for a woman) and overweight and yet he tells me how "small" i am. he said he used 3 fingers on his ex! i can not imagine 3 or 4 fingers let alone a fist lol. i vaginally delivered a 7 and a half pound baby and i have been having sex with his 9 inch package for 5 years and he still can not slide right in no matter how wet and arroused i am. also i see people saying that too much lube is not good and that sometimes that is the reason for a man not being able to cum? i was always told wetter was better and even when i am soaking wet to the point that it is dripping off of us and leaves a puddle in the bed we both still have lots of feeling! i even asked him this last night "even when i am dripping wet do you still feel me all around " he said "hell yeah". he did have a girl that he could not cum with sometimes and he said it was definately her that it wasnt good! i asked him "why" and he simply said "she had a big coochie" i am not saying that is every mans problem that cant cum but definately plays a part and her vagina must have been pretty big for a man with a 9 and a half not to enjoy! i think that evryone is different and you need to find the perfect fit. i feel like our parts fit perfect...even though he cant slide right in , after a few minutes it is a perfect glove for his manhood. i always though that loose meant that you were a slut and that you have been with alot of guys but that is not the case everyone is different i have even heard of virgins having big holes. obviously they were born that way! but anyway sorry this got long i had to share my feelings on these things! i hope nothing i said was taken offensively! lauren

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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 11:42am
I didn't mean that Kegels are not good in general, I just am not sure about how important they are for increasing sensation for the male during penis and vagina sex. That reason is often cited is all, It might not be rong, I was just questioning it. I know kegels have all sorts of benefits for both men and women, not the least of which is making orgasms stronger. :D
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 12:07pm
If a guy is having sex with you, can he tell that you've been doing your kegels? I mean, if it's "tighter" this time than the last (b/c you've been doing kegels)... just wondering. I never knew what kegel exercises were until the other day. (I am 23 years old-) I started doing them yesterday. I just hope I'm doing it right. How do I know if I'm doing it right?
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 12:26pm
>>>>>>3)IMHO a lot of men say nasty things about that as some sort of manifestation of misogynist feelings that they have. They feel angry about pressure that they feel on their size and performance and make those remarks with an intention to hurt and take pressure of themselves, although they may not realize it.<<<<<<<


lol so are you basically saying (if we turn this around) that if a women has nasty things to say about a males penis she is just angry about the pressure she feel about her body and say remarks only to take away the pressure of themselves??

but the comments about the more sex a women has the more loose she is and the more pronounced her labia is the more number of partners she has...i have seen so many time on another message board....its mean but I think its one of those what goes around comes around type of things on another board from what I have seen. Its humorous to see the hypocrisy that people show when these types of “make people fell insecure” threads (as I call them) pop up




Edited 10/6/2004 12:40 pm ET ET by icoffeemug

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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 2:01pm
In your post below you said that sex hurts. Now it doesn't?

I'm just confused, I guess.....

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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 4:02pm
I like the reference to paper towel roll. Maybe even a Grand Canyon echo. LOL.

I'm also at the 3,900+ point and counting. I've had more than my share of virgins and also the more skilled in many relationships. From my experience I'd have to say a woman's size is destined to change once and maybe more in her lifetime. In my past, I've been with more virgins than I can count on one hand. No intent; it just worked out that way. In spite of tons of foreplay, no matter how slow and gentle entry is, penetrating a virgin hurts like heck! With all the lubrication and attempted relaxation, the walls are so snug and grip the shaft that any movement tears the skin under the glans. Ouch! I always bled more than the former virgins. The painful encounters occur a number of times until the lady loosens up. Maybe it's like stretching a leg tendon? From then on it remains the same tightness. It's difficult for a male to decrease size, but thankfully a woman can increase in size. Not being an owner, but only visiting, I assume a woman has to learn how much depth she can accept without pain. I've found no matter how excited a woman is, how much pressure she can accept at the back, or for that matter gentle pressure against her uterus, remains the same.

I've also found, without inserting my size here (pun intended), that previously married or active women will also change in size for the long term. In spite of the sheer thrill of a new partner, that initial penetration is almost too tight for one and must be painful for the other. I don't know if it's based upon the number of encounters or time "together", but soon she will have expanded semi-permanently to where it always remains the same snug fit.

Just my $0.02 observations.

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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 4:23pm
Just because a penis is long doesnt mean it is thick...penises and vaginas come in all sizes, lengths, depths, thicknesses...
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 4:53pm
to humpdaddy... can a brother (meaning YOU) get an "Amen?" lol That was funny.
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 5:15pm
wow! lol i didnt expect this many posts! i am 21 and SO is 24. i also thought that the way the labia looked and the looseness all had to do with how many partners but now i see things way different. my SO told me that i still feel the same after delivering my daughter so i now believe that your size is simply your size and it will always go back to that! in almost every porno i have seen the women always have those long hanging labia ~ i always thought it was from so much sex but now i have learned that women are born that way. i had never seen that before ~ obviously mine are not that way and i should not have been so quick to judge just because i am different. actually i have never seen "one" like mine in any porno! my labia are almost non existant if anyone knows what i mean?! i dont know how to explain it? but anyway these boards have made me see things totally different!
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 10:12pm
That's because usually, no matter how much you may want to have sex the first time or how aroused you are, there is a bit of tensing up in anticipation that it may hurt or at least be uncomfortable. Tense up your muscles - any muscles - and there isn't a great deal of flexibility. The first time with a new partner isn't usually the greatest time.

Now someone who is more experienced, more apt to be comfortable with what she is doing and more aroused is going to be a bit more relaxed. Not *loose* - relaxed. There's a difference. When a woman is aroused, there is what is called the 'tenting effect'...the vagina expands to accomodate the erect penis. You're not going to usually find that effect with a virgin or with a new partner the first few times.

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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:32am
I was born with a big genitalia, so I guess therefore I am "large" inside? Does that make any sense to any of ya'll? My man nicknamed my vagina "the pu--y monster" b/c it is "thick," if you know what I mean. One guy told me that he had never seen a vagina like mine before... he said it "looks/ or is shaped like a pear." He's right- it does!

lala, I am now doing my kegels... maybe my man will tell a difference in the next time we have sex! lol