the "size" topic....

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the "size" topic....
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 1:41pm
i have been reading alot of posts here and i see alot of debate about the size of vaginas. i see alot of people say that all vaginas are the same and "one size fits all" and stuff like that but i totally disagree. i think every woman is different. i have talked to women friends and i openly talk to my SO about this. alot of women aslo say that it has to do with how arroused you are and i also dont agree with this! i am one of those women who gets exterememly wet but even so i am still tight! my SO only uses 1 finger during foreplay and so i asked him "why?" and his reply was "because you have a lil coochie" i told him i wanted him to use 2 fingers so saturday night he did and i asked him what it felt like and he said he felt like he was hurting me because it was so tight around his fingers. in another post some people thought that body size has to do with vagina size and i agree this is not the case as it also is not with men. my SO is 5'10 and 150lbs and is a lil over 9! i am 5'7 (tall for a woman) and overweight and yet he tells me how "small" i am. he said he used 3 fingers on his ex! i can not imagine 3 or 4 fingers let alone a fist lol. i vaginally delivered a 7 and a half pound baby and i have been having sex with his 9 inch package for 5 years and he still can not slide right in no matter how wet and arroused i am. also i see people saying that too much lube is not good and that sometimes that is the reason for a man not being able to cum? i was always told wetter was better and even when i am soaking wet to the point that it is dripping off of us and leaves a puddle in the bed we both still have lots of feeling! i even asked him this last night "even when i am dripping wet do you still feel me all around " he said "hell yeah". he did have a girl that he could not cum with sometimes and he said it was definately her that it wasnt good! i asked him "why" and he simply said "she had a big coochie" i am not saying that is every mans problem that cant cum but definately plays a part and her vagina must have been pretty big for a man with a 9 and a half not to enjoy! i think that evryone is different and you need to find the perfect fit. i feel like our parts fit perfect...even though he cant slide right in , after a few minutes it is a perfect glove for his manhood. i always though that loose meant that you were a slut and that you have been with alot of guys but that is not the case everyone is different i have even heard of virgins having big holes. obviously they were born that way! but anyway sorry this got long i had to share my feelings on these things! i hope nothing i said was taken offensively! lauren

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 9:21am
I fairly much agree, but there may be a gender difference here.

I've had eight vigins in my life. Sure, first time penetration for a woman must be a tense and VERY uncomfortable activity. Having someone inside and moving within your body for the first time would stress anyone. My point is it typically takes maybe a dozen or two matings for a virgin's vagina to expand to match her mate's penis. You've had the experience of one virgin vagina, where I've had eight. In my encounters with virgins, it's not only the first penetration, but a number of sessions for a lady to assume a larger size. In each case, a virgin's vagina is unbeliveably tight for a dozen or two encounters in spite of holding, kissing, oral orgasms, etc. Virgins are overrated. Their vaginas hurt like heck. After the first of secon time, virgins are no longer tense and uncomfortable but anticipate it. But for numbers of times a guy has to be very slow and gentle during insertion and movement until she expands. The tight walls, with all the lubrication in the world, still hug the skin tightly and moving the penis causes tears under the glans (Ouch!) when the skin can't move with it. But after a few dozen encounters, it's like the vagina permanently expands to fit her lover.

I understand the "tenting effect" with experienced women. It's the greatest thing since sliced bread. It is so fantastic to move along an experienced woman's walls and feel her excitement build as she opens in back, and how her cervix lifts up out of the way. I don't think of an experienced woman as loose in the back at all. It's an extreme complement to a male that she is preparing to accept within. Is it discomforting to know that even an experienced woman will semi-permanently expand to accommadate a larger lover?

I'd also have to differ on virgins "tenting" in back. The first or second penetration is not being much fun for either partipant. But on subsequent penetrations in spite of her vagina not expanding to her "normal" size yet, all women "tent" in back. I don't know if women can feel or are aware of it happening. It certainly can slow down a guy by providing less stimultaion.

Men, because of obvious mechanical and plumbing issues can't change their size. It's fantastic that women are able to adapt and assume their lover's size for the long term, be it small or large. It doesn't matter as a woman is able to provide her, and her man the 'perfect fit'.

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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:00pm
hightek, try doing your kegels while he is inside you..he will definately feel that. "clinch and hold"..lol
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 6:44pm
If he feels it, will he say something? No... b/c I have & he didn't say a word. I told him that I started doing kegels the other day & he said, "What's that?" (meaning "kegels") I told him. Heck, I didn't know what kegel exercises were, either, until the other day-- and I am 23 years old!!!

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