I know that if DH and I don't have sex for a even a couple of weeks, the first time after that I'm always tighter. And sure, women who are not experienced will be tighter. But some women's vaginas are just smaller and some are larger. Again, if the situation you mentioned really went down that way, he needs to be a little more specific about what he was feeling...he shouldn't put the blame on you and you shouldn't take the blame. If he says you were too tight, then he can help you out by stretching you GRADUALLY with his fingers (I mean, like over several sessions), and also maybe you needed to be more lubricated. If he says you weren't tight enough, there are lots of different positions that will give him more friction. But he's got to meet you halfway on this one instead of leaving you to try and figure him out.
I don't think generalizations will really give the right answers here. First off, I don't know about other women, but I know that I don't feel less tight if I had sex an hour ago than I do if I had it a month ago. There are times that I feel tighter than others, but I think that has to do with other things (like my own arousal level and the amount of lubrication).
Now, like any muscle, your vaginal muscles can get tired. If they're tired, then they may not be squeezing as tightly as they would if they weren't tired. Perhaps in that respect, less sex would make you feel tighter. Looking at the opposite side of that, if the muscles aren't kept toned, they can become lax ... in that respect, the more sex you have, the tighter they would be.
No two vaginas are the same,
Welcome to the board, mariposa_21.
I agree with what Tish wrote 100%.
Vagina's do come in different sizes. Sounds like he had some other issues, but I wouldn't assume that means he's gay.
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Hey there,
I know that if DH and I don't have sex for a even a couple of weeks, the first time after that I'm always tighter. And sure, women who are not experienced will be tighter. But some women's vaginas are just smaller and some are larger. Again, if the situation you mentioned really went down that way, he needs to be a little more specific about what he was feeling...he shouldn't put the blame on you and you shouldn't take the blame. If he says you were too tight, then he can help you out by stretching you GRADUALLY with his fingers (I mean, like over several sessions), and also maybe you needed to be more lubricated. If he says you weren't tight enough, there are lots of different positions that will give him more friction. But he's got to meet you halfway on this one instead of leaving you to try and figure him out.
Good luck!
/LS
I don't think generalizations will really give the right answers here. First off, I don't know about other women, but I know that I don't feel less tight if I had sex an hour ago than I do if I had it a month ago. There are times that I feel tighter than others, but I think that has to do with other things (like my own arousal level and the amount of lubrication).
Now, like any muscle, your vaginal muscles can get tired. If they're tired, then they may not be squeezing as tightly as they would if they weren't tired. Perhaps in that respect, less sex would make you feel tighter. Looking at the opposite side of that, if the muscles aren't kept toned, they can become lax ... in that respect, the more sex you have, the tighter they would be.
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