slapping a woman rear-or is it vagina?

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slapping a woman rear-or is it vagina?
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 5:15pm

can't find a response to this in the site...

What is the meaning for a man to slapp a womans rear during intercourse? seeking clarity to confusion...

JudithS

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 5:36pm
I would be very interested in knowing what women who like being spanked on the ass cheeks sense. This seems to be a common practice in adult type films and I never understood the merits of this act. Do they like it or does it feel good or add to the act of intercourse? Might try doing this if some women are turned on by it just to see if spouse might like it. I would also like to know others slant on this subject.
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 6:06pm
From what I've heard from those who enjoy it, it provides the same sensation for both sexes. The butt slapping adds a little vibration that women AND men enjoy, particularly, when aroused.
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 6:07pm

Some people are into spanking, just like anything else some people might do during sex.


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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:51am
I think a little more detail than was stated by cl-issytish (“vibration”) & katmandoo2001 ("Some people like it, some don't.”) is necessary for me to understand the merits of slapping a women’s rear during sex. To stop what ever I was doing and slap a female’s behind would seem like a downer to me. I can’t see any sensual benefit from the act of spanking other than a stinging sensation, Ouch. I don���t see how this would enhance the sexual act. Does it change the sensation from you know where to the butt area thus redirecting pleasure? Please try to explain to me how it would enhance sex; maybe I'll try it to see if she likes it.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:08pm

Sorry, I can't explain why it would enhance sex because we're not into spanking.


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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:29pm

For my df, I think it adds a quick jolt/impact, and that jolt during arousal is "exciting". She is a reserved girl and I am a resersved man (at least when we first started), and as such we would have good but tame sex. During the more tame sessions, one well timed slap just gets her from tame romantic mode to screw my brains out mode. It is just one more added sensation that gets her really into a wild mood. I dont know why or how, but hey, it works! She just likes impact when very aroused :).

She hates porn, isnt super kinky and doesnt like to do anything cliche. We used to playfully love tap each others' bottoms outside of the bedroom, to sorta send the message "hey there hot stuff, wink wink". I guess our butt slapping in sex is just an extension of that??? It sure as heck isnt derived from S&M or porn.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 1:16pm

Same here. I slap my DH's rump occasionally, and he mine, but it's not sexual for either of us. It's a playful thing.

Maybe some develop a liking if they are spanked at a particularly sexually charged age, like puberty, perhaps?

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 4:24pm

Are you saying slap not tap? Is that what i am understanding you to say?

Thank you for the response.

JudithS

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 6:40pm

~Are you saying slap not tap? Is that what i am understanding you to say?
Thank you for the response.
JudithS~

Good question. No, it is a slap slap SLAP. :). Lots of people dont "get" why a slap feels good or where the idea comes from. Some people do it during times when they want CRAZY out-of-control kinky sex, some for control, S&M, and porn, but we just like to use it when we want to be more "wild" than romantic. I dont know why we like it so much, but the "closest" thing I can think of is how we playfully love tap each other on the bottom. That was my connection to tapping.

Most times we have slow romantic emotional sex the whole time, and sometimes we get a little fast and furious(We dont really have rough sex though). Anyhow, during sex, I can tell by her movements if she wants it to be more fast and furios, and when she does, she favors fast/firm/jolting acts. ALL of our touching has a dual form. Depending on the mood, she either wants the fast and fursious versoin or the slow and steady version. During slow time, we caress each others' butt, but during furious time, slapping and firm grabbing are more of a turn on for her. I guess she is "strange" in the sense that if we are going fast and furious, she feels that caressing is out of place and she needs a more firm/jolting touch, however if she had her butt slapped, she would get more turned on and start going even faster. When she is in that mood, that jolt is just quite arousing. I hope that is a sufficient explanation??

As another attempt I wont use butt slapping, but changing sexual positions. For instance, if we switch from her on top to me on top, we can do it smoothly and calmly, however if I know she wants to get a big rush of excitement and get more wild, then I grab her really fast and firm with one arm, use my free arm to literally lift us and spin us as fast as I possibly can, and then let her down firmly without slamming her. For her, the firm/fast/jolting position change really gets her going, while the slow position change just interrupts the fast fury :). She likes it this way for the same reason she likes her butt slapped. It just seems to arouse her more.

I wouldnt call it control/S&M/or even "ROUGH" sex, just a little more wild. To me, it makes sense, but I can see why others dont get it.

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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:52pm
I had this request with only one partner(doggie style).. she wanted her butt cheek slapped hard enough to make it turn pink (she kept saying slap harder..lol) After, I asked what she liked about it, and she said it was a combination of pain and pleasure.. she found with a little pain her orgasm was easier triggered. Some people like a nipple pinched for this same reason.

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