Slut in the bedroom??

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Slut in the bedroom??
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 3:10pm
A man on another post said that all men want a slut in the bedroom. I've always heard this growing up too. Isn't a slut a woman who is dirty and services men? The dictionary definition is:

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.

A woman prostitute.

A slovenly woman; a slattern

All negative, IMO.

I love and enjoy sex to it's fullest potential. Considering the fact that this is the twenty-first century, I think that it's about over due that we come up with a better associated word other than "slut" for a women who enjoys sex(particularly sex within a monogomous relationship). It's very offensive that women who enjoy sex are compared with a person who has little or no self-respect and who is most likely not respected by the men she's having sex with.

Additionally, not all women have to act like sluts(servicing men). I believe that a woman can be extremely sexy and sexual just by being themselves. Which may be the furthest thing from being slutty. It may be she has a sweet, natural, demeaner.






Edited 6/15/2004 4:19 pm ET ET by franciesfancy

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 11:44am
...does he stay hard while being milked? (**sorry, couldn't resist...when I saw your handle?) ;-)

LOL!!!!! Yes, he stays "crisp" for a long time! The handle: Capn' Crunch is his favorite late night snack! ;-D

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:57pm
How about the "Bitchy Slut Board?" LOL!
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:59pm
What I meant by that statement was that the woman I am with has to be, as kat put it and the PC way to say the same thing in my opinion, an open minded, completely sexual being once the doorway to the bedroom is passed. It is not meant as so many have inferred as a dirogitory remark, but rather as a statement of personality. Be mature all you want, and healthy etc. etc, but if you are not interested in going the distance, and have a good interest then there is no point in my opinion. I don't want another dead fish in my bed, as my ex-wife was. I got really tired of the type that just lays there and enjoys what I do to them without being willing or interested in pleasing me as well. My SO is a "slut in the bedroom". She get's into it, and has really started opening up to her sexual side, rather than staying on her back doing nothing extra. A "Slut in the bedroom" is a woman that gets actively involved in sex, enjoys it when she is with her SO, and really enjoys the activities involved in pleasing there mate. I am fairly sure that every woman on this thread is pretty much a "slut in the bedroom", whether you want your SO or anyone else to say that about you is not exactly the point. You are powerful, healthy, sexual women, who enjoy the pleasures of sex, and giving your partners pleasure in return. That is all I really mean by the statement. And I will use it regardless, since my SO has no problem with it at all. I am sorry that so many of you are not able to accept that Phrase, but, it applies across the board regardless. A slut is a slut, but a slut in the bedroom is really all I want!!!
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:05pm
Whether the word is replaced or not, the phrase meas the same thing. If you can't deal with the phrase you don't have to use it, or even accept it into your life, but there is nothing that means anyone who can appreciate that comment has to go along with your opinion. A lady in public, and a "WOMAN" in the bedroom, means the exact same thing, if you look at it that way!!! I personally don't care one way or the other, but then again I am a man and I therefore have no labels placed on me by society. The only stigma placed on males in society is penis size and attitude regarding sex, but there are not many labels for those. So, I do sympathize with those who do not like it, but it is the way it is and will always be, until people stop teaching there children to take offense to things that there is no need to take offense to, then we will always have labels, and slang terms to live with.
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:06pm
My husband says he wants a slut in the bedroom, Martha Stewart in the kitchen and June Cleaver in the living room.

Well, 2 outa three ain't bad!

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:12pm
You are such a definitions oriented person aren't you Kat!!! Everything by the book?? I guess you really are not a "slut in the bedroom". That would bore me. Let's just stick to what is already written in the book of sex. LOL Come on now. Everyone knows what a SLUT is. But when used in a phrase it tends to mean something a little more positive. Regardless of what Websters says it means. The definition of the words are irrelevant when the phrase is used for a not so negative reason. You are talking like everyone needs to read the dictionary in order to understand the words that are coming out of our own mouths. The meaning behind the words, are not always the definition of each and every word. Bedroom in this instance doesn't necessarily mean the place in which a bed is placed!!
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:13pm
I LOVE IT. PERFECT THERE CAPT!!!!
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:14pm
You are the best Tish. I love it. LOL. :)
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:19pm
Aw shucks Jeep...You said it right, a WOMAN in the bedroom. I betcha if you were in a circle of men and women....Ok, let's make it real good and add a few sluts(both men and women), in the mix. You're all talking about what type of SO you want. What if you said "I want a lady by my side and a WOMAN(and you said it with emphasis) in my bedroom, do you think that the meaning would get lost somehow? I don't. Of course, there were a few other terms pushed around like Sex Goddess and Wildcat or even Hot Woman, and we could probably think of a million other terms that would GET YOUR POINT MADE. Imagine the expression on the sluts' faces? ;-)

Jeep, I've heard the term all of my life and the phrase(not directed towards me). It's no big deal when used in the proper context(although my DH has never used it), but that's just the point...society forces women to accept less than respectable behavior and stigmas.

I want to be recognized for the sexual person that I am, and not it be that the only way for someone to express that is to compare me to a slut.




Edited 6/18/2004 3:32 pm ET ET by free_to_choose

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:02pm

Awwww, thanks Jeep.


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