Slut in the bedroom??

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Slut in the bedroom??
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 3:10pm
A man on another post said that all men want a slut in the bedroom. I've always heard this growing up too. Isn't a slut a woman who is dirty and services men? The dictionary definition is:

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.

A woman prostitute.

A slovenly woman; a slattern

All negative, IMO.

I love and enjoy sex to it's fullest potential. Considering the fact that this is the twenty-first century, I think that it's about over due that we come up with a better associated word other than "slut" for a women who enjoys sex(particularly sex within a monogomous relationship). It's very offensive that women who enjoy sex are compared with a person who has little or no self-respect and who is most likely not respected by the men she's having sex with.

Additionally, not all women have to act like sluts(servicing men). I believe that a woman can be extremely sexy and sexual just by being themselves. Which may be the furthest thing from being slutty. It may be she has a sweet, natural, demeaner.






Edited 6/15/2004 4:19 pm ET ET by franciesfancy

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 7:46pm
Neither does the word slut or whore either. They are just slang words. They don't explain what someone is like "in bed". Slut, Pimp, Whore, Sugar Daddy, Backdoor Man all imply a certain sexuality link and usually - wild and horny! lol.

P.S. Backdoor Man can be either a flandering man having sex with someone he isn't suppose to be and seeking escape from a husband or SO be leaving out the backdoor of the house OR a man who is into anal sex. Both implying sexual behavior, btw. ;) HEE!

Lets not argue any more about sluts though, shall we, lol. Pretty funnnnnnny!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 7:51pm
>>OK. Any woman who is uninhibited is a slut. Got it!<<

If you want to be immature, fine by me. I said before, everyone has different definitions. Mine is different from yours. To me, I use the word slut with my DH to represent feelings of sexual freedom. Grow up a little.

Leticia

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 7:56pm
That's what I'm trying to do! I see it's all in vain, however. Slut stays!


Edited 6/15/2004 7:57 pm ET ET by franciesfancy
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:01pm
Hey, I'm a slut too. Since I'm proud of my sexuality, and very freely express it, then I have to join the club. Wow, what a revelation!
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:13pm
>>Hey, I'm a slut too. Since I'm proud of my sexuality, and very freely express it, then I have to join the club. Wow, what a revelation!<<

You think this makes you seem more mature?

Leticia

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:18pm
Since the word slut seems juvenile to me, I was just playing the part...or coming down to level. As you said, it means different things to everyone. According to yours and some of the other's definitions, I'm a slut.
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:23pm
Everybody defines who they are for themselves, and not just sexually. You don't have to to give yourself any label you don't want. No one is forcing the label on you.

Leticia

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:27pm
Oh, I know that. I personally don't think that a woman who is not promiscuous; who happens to be uninhibited; who happens to enjoy sex; who wants to please her partner, is a slut. I think she's a naturally healthy individual.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:28pm
She can be herself. Depends on her guy and what he likes in the bedroom. Some men like it rough with their partners, some soft and gentle - some vanilla sex and some "rock and roll" sex. Being "good in bed" is between the two individuals involved. The word slut is just a word, just a term. Don't get your panties in a wad over it. lol.
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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:33pm
Since jeephead used the original expression , it's important to notice it's

"slut IN THE BEDROOM", not "slut" in general. This makes all the difference in the world because it's in our bedroom and only for us, nobody else. Then it's time to be wild and uninhibited. I have used the term slut with my DF, and almost always qualified it by saying "only for me" (and me for her). We don't like the term"whore", though and I would never use it.

Somebody suggested "goddess". We've used that one, too, though usually for a certain favorite position for cuninlingus.

taoist

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