Slut in the bedroom??

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Slut in the bedroom??
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 3:10pm
A man on another post said that all men want a slut in the bedroom. I've always heard this growing up too. Isn't a slut a woman who is dirty and services men? The dictionary definition is:

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.

A woman prostitute.

A slovenly woman; a slattern

All negative, IMO.

I love and enjoy sex to it's fullest potential. Considering the fact that this is the twenty-first century, I think that it's about over due that we come up with a better associated word other than "slut" for a women who enjoys sex(particularly sex within a monogomous relationship). It's very offensive that women who enjoy sex are compared with a person who has little or no self-respect and who is most likely not respected by the men she's having sex with.

Additionally, not all women have to act like sluts(servicing men). I believe that a woman can be extremely sexy and sexual just by being themselves. Which may be the furthest thing from being slutty. It may be she has a sweet, natural, demeaner.






Edited 6/15/2004 4:19 pm ET ET by franciesfancy

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:35pm
I like to be all of those, not stuck on either of them. Guess that's why I'm considered a sexual goddess by my SO. He's very diverse too. Not stale.
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:42pm
Women are used to hearing it, it's part of our culture.
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:42pm
Oh my goodness! Neither of you are mature. Silly, silly. Let it go. Its a word/term. Simple.
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:46pm
How so? Can you show me which response? I was under the impression this was an open discussion, and I have been discussing it.

Leticia

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:07pm

Here in Australia, we also call men sluts - and the meaning is the same as your dictionary definition.

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:35pm
I've never heard a man called a slut unless he did anything in a skirt. Even if he was promiscuous, he's not labeled a slut and they aren't asked to act like sluts whether or not they're uninhibited or even if they're reserved. LOL

"....prude comes to mind when I think of a certain past boyfriend. Or how about selfish, inept, useless, dud"

All of those labels can be applied to men or women.

I can't seem to understand why it is that, a woman who acts exactly the same as a man in bed, is ACTING like a slut and he's just a normal guy.

From where I'm from, slut is overused, but rarely ever used to describe a male.










Edited 6/15/2004 9:36 pm ET ET by franciesfancy

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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:46pm
I heard of a saying that goes--Men want a lady in the street and a slut in the bed--In my opinion I think all men (to a certain extent) want a slut in the bedroom. Yes I agree slut may be a harsh word but if you yourself know that you are not a slut I dont see why it would bother you. It would not bother me under the right circumstances (dirty talk) during sex to hear dh refer to something Ive done to him as acting like a slut but I would not like to be called a slut.
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:56pm
My whole point throughout this thread is WHY are these acts slutty or acting like a slut? These are normal acts that normal women do everyday. Why not recognize it for what it is...or put credit where it belongs. LOL


Edited 6/15/2004 9:57 pm ET ET by franciesfancy
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 12:04am
The way I've heard the saying is: "men want a woman who's a lady in public, and a whore in the bedroom".

All that means is that they want you to be ladylike where others can see you, (although there are some men who get off on seeing their partner act whorish in public!) and to be wild and sexy and/or down and dirty in the bedroom. I don't see anything wrong with that, and certainly nothing negative. No man wants to be with a woman who's sexually repressed! (Unless he's repressed himself!)

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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 12:43am
TOTALLY missed it! My DH believes that woman = sex, not slut. I don't think a healthy sexual appetite in a woman should be labled with a term for a psychosexual disorder like nymphomaniac or slang derogatory words like freak, slut or ho. I think it gives the impression that women who like sex are an aberration or something.

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