Slut in the bedroom??

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Slut in the bedroom??
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 3:10pm
A man on another post said that all men want a slut in the bedroom. I've always heard this growing up too. Isn't a slut a woman who is dirty and services men? The dictionary definition is:

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.

A woman prostitute.

A slovenly woman; a slattern

All negative, IMO.

I love and enjoy sex to it's fullest potential. Considering the fact that this is the twenty-first century, I think that it's about over due that we come up with a better associated word other than "slut" for a women who enjoys sex(particularly sex within a monogomous relationship). It's very offensive that women who enjoy sex are compared with a person who has little or no self-respect and who is most likely not respected by the men she's having sex with.

Additionally, not all women have to act like sluts(servicing men). I believe that a woman can be extremely sexy and sexual just by being themselves. Which may be the furthest thing from being slutty. It may be she has a sweet, natural, demeaner.






Edited 6/15/2004 4:19 pm ET ET by franciesfancy

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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 9:32am
Nothing new about "ho".....it's Ebonics for "Whore". Richard Pryor talked about his Mother being a "ho" many years ago.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 9:50am

You are taking the word slut literally.


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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:02am
You have all touched in part what I am saying. Tiana, Tish, you both nailed it, in your own ways. Out in public I don't mind my SO acting a little "slutty", but most of the time I want her prim and proper. Act like a lady in the social circles, but, close that door, and I want the whore in her to come out. Let the slut go to work. You get my drift. All of you seem to get the point. The words are not important as the meaning behind them. If I called my SO a slut, I would have ice packs on my crotch for a week. But, if I tell her I want her to be a slut for me, then that is another story entirely. It is in no way meant to be offensive, but more as a pet phrase for your SO. There are so many things people call there SO's, or even say about them. But, when it comes down to it, who wants a woman, or a man for that matter that acts the exact same in public, or in private. Not me, that's for sure. When my SO gets flirty in public, I have fun with it. When she gets sexual, that is when foreplay starts. Our comments, jestures, and light petting are all part of the game we call sex. And boy, isn't it a fun game to play!!!!
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:09am
Men are labeled just like women are. Ever heard the term Stud? Or how about any number of other terms women use to describe men for there sexual ability? None of it really matters, accept to the person in question. And then it is there opinion of the terms used.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:18am
Jumping in - Isn't a 'b' a female dog?

It seems then that it would be ok for women to say "I want a gentlemen in public and a pig in the bedroom".

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:20am
Thanks Taoist. You got the one thing no one else seemed to get. "Slut in the bedroom" and calling someone a slut to me are to different things entirely. LOL My SO is "My little slut", or my "slut in the bedroom", not just a slut. That is where I think everyone got all screwed up. I was using the phraze, not just the word. LOL Anyway, nice to see this discussion take off like it did.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:22am
Stud? Yes, I know that word. That's what men who are promiscuous are labeled. The same label would not apply to a promiscuous woman. She'd be a slut. Stud = positive, slut = negative
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:29am
I suppose if you want a filthy, snorting, rutting, fat slobbin creature in bed with you, then ure go ahead and say that. Slut, and pig?? I see no corrolation.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:31am

Yeap, a bitch is a female dog also, but I did find Webster's dictionary to have a definition of slut: a female dog (bitch)


http://machaut.uchicago.edu/cgi-bin/WEBSTER.sh?WORD=slut







~Tish co-cl


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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:31am
lol. In my neck of the woods, labeling a man a pig, is implying that he's sex obsessed.

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