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| Fri, 12-22-2006 - 1:15am |
I have a friend that until recently I thought to be promisquous. However, after she told me that she had a "great" weekend, sleeping with three different guys in three days, I couldn't help but question what I thought. The first guy she is in a "relationship" with. (the relationship is just for sex as far as she is concerned. Im not sure of his view) The second guy is a co-worker. Christmas party aftermath. The third is an ex she has been on and off fighting with for past year. She had a hotel room and mentioned to her ex she was alone in the room. He just shows up un-announced and the deed was done. Im not sure what to think of this. If it was a story I heard of someone else I would probably say "what a slut". Am i over re-acting or is she slutty?
Thanks in advance for any comments.

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I know exactly how you feel about having sex with the one you love. Even in my first marriage that lasted over 20 years, the sex was good when we had it, the problem there was she was a very low libido. I feel many people have never been in love long term with one person, so they have nothing to compare their casual sex with. There is a huge difference(as you know)It kind of reminds me of "Sex and the City" when Carrie asked Big if he had ever been in love and he answered,"Abso-Friggin-lutely.( yeah I watched it..lol)
My now wife(high libido) is fairly 'experienced" , but the one thing she told me I found to be kind of profound..Although she had orgasms with other men in her life, she told me I was the only man she could totally "let go" with. My take on that comment was that she didnt worry about her performance, her body, or any other trivial thing while we made love..She could let go of her insecurities and really be herself..I took that as a huge complement.
People like you, Tish, myself and several others here are very lucky, so lucky in fact that some others can not even know where we come from when we talk about relationship sex.
I never saw the whole movie....only caught a part here and there (I will make a note to watch it as I know it was a good movie).
Funny....but even though my husband wasn't the "best sex ever" for many years, it was still the "best sex ever" because it was with him. Go figure....two EXACT situations, with completely opposite views.... ;-) Does that bring us to the question of: "What exactly constitutes "the best sex ever?"
Edited 12/29/2006 11:40 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
Here is my 2 cents.
We associate ourselves with people we respect. If you find her sexual habits morally reprehensible, and something that would cause you to lose respect for her, then it is well within your right to feel that way. No one can tell you who you should respect or what behavior you should deem as morally reprehensible. If you have lost respect for her, stop being her friend. I would personally just tell her to keep her sex life to herself. It is as simple as that.
As for the word slut, well, it is very degrading to women because women have been sexually repressed and unfairly judged in recent history. I personally would try to avoid that label just because it reminds me of women being viewed as sexually inferior to men.
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