sluts - what's the attraction????

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sluts - what's the attraction????
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Sat, 11-06-2004 - 10:49am
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Edited 8/26/2008 6:08 pm ET by inacolada
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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 3:00pm

Prostitute doesn't necessarily mean there has to be an exchange of money.


In the context of this discussion it does. The fact that people occasionally "prostitute themselves", or that a prostitute may give a freebie doesn't change the simple fact that if you a nnounce to someone "I am a prostitute" or "I am going to see a prostitute", they will assume sex for money is involved.

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Registered: 11-06-2004
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 3:12pm
I understand that, but in comparing the two, you can see many similarities.

Let's take a woman in a bar who decides she's going to strip down to a thong bathing suit, and proceeds with several lap dances for many of the men there. She does this for free, although some of the men do buy her drinks.

Take a stripper in a club, doing the exact same thing, for money.

They are both doing the exact same act, with the only difference being that the professional stripper most likely wouldn't do it if not for the money.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 8:25pm
I don't think most of the streetwalker type prostitutes even fake liking it. They aren't there for sex, they aren't there to come, they aren't there for anything except the money they can make. The name of the game in most street sex is oral, because you don't need even need to get horizontal or take off any clothes.

Now high-end call girls with an exclusive list of a few customers might actually have enjoyable sessions but usually there is more of an emotional attachment there, even if it's still a service for money.

Men who frequent prostitutes for the most part, are not there to have a meaningful sexual encounter. They're there to get quick release.

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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 8:29pm
I'll bet the poster on askmen would be surprised to hear that most of the women I know IRL think that prostitution should be legalized, for multiple reasons. I myself am among them.

What I've wondered is why prostitution (ie, selling one's body for sex) is illegal, but making porn movies (same thing) isn't.

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 3:11pm
>>>>And the ones who want to try oral or anal but are afraid to ask their W or GF. And I'm sure the list goes on and on.<<<<

I agree, after all most wives or girlfriends, would not want to engage in that kind of sex soooo they pay for it.

but the most logical reason is that they are selfish. why not just have yourself taken care of, to them it might be like going and have a massage is for us.

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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 4:58pm
Electician...No Im not saying it is justifiable, nor do I think its right. The only time I can see even a tiny bit of justification in cheating is when the cheater does it to end a relationship...Even then I think it is a terrible solution. At least have the nerve to tell the SO to their face. But if it has gotten to that place in the relationship, the cheater probably could care less if they are caught, or what the SO thinks.
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 6:45pm
Don't agree that most wives or gfs won't do it - after all, every wife on this board and the ones I know IRL perform fellatio - and a large number have at least *tried* anal.

What I said was some men are afraid to *ask* for it, or think their W/GF will think it's strange. Although anal may be the last taboo, as fellatio is fairly common these days. It used to be you would NEVER ask your wife to do that! That barrier is pretty much gone now, it's standard practice, usually.

While a massage is touching, it's not sexual. I don't equate the two at all. I wouldn't be upset if DH was getting a licensed masseuse, but I would be upset if he were visiting a prostitute, for more reasons than one.

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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:10am
guys want sluts.its been drilled in my head ever since i can remember.sex sex sex.i have to learn to be a slut.
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Registered: 10-19-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:02am
Are you sure you are old enough for these boards?

I'll grant you that guys do want "sluts" in the biblical sense. Have you ever heard the expression Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Seems that you need to get a little self respect and then maybe guys will want you not what's between your legs.

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:31pm

Bah humbug!


Either:


1) You don't know any guys


2) You don't know any decent guys


or


3) You're yanking our chain

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