Small penis

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Registered: 08-19-2005
Small penis
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:47am
I know that I am going to get flamed for this, but here it goes....My boyfriend's penis is very small. Maybe 3" long when erect, with a small circumfrence. We have been together for 8 months now, and have tried position imaginable. We have wonderful foreplay, and the orgasms are great. But intercourse is very unsatisfactory for me, and I really miss the feeling of being "full". I can hardly feel his penis inside of me. I know that I sound shallow, but this is how I feel. Any suggestions on a position that will help accomodate a small penis?

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 6:04am
Dump him immediately.
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Registered: 08-12-2004
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 7:01am
Get a sleeve extension for both of you. The fact that the foreplay and orgasms are good says he's worked around his size. Or get a vibe and let him in the back door.
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Registered: 08-15-2005
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 9:10am

you enjoy the foreplay and the orgasms, you like and care for this guy? where is the problem? get a toy have him incorporate that in your sex life. it is the man, guy attacted to that penis that matters not the other way around. my dh is not all that large but geeze he satisfied my needs we also use a toy or two...when i get that urge to be filled (he gets turned on by that)i take the toy in my hand he knows what to do.

kate

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 9:57am

TM,

You've gotten some good advice here (other than Tom's which was kind of stupid if he wasn't joking).

Ultimately, he has what he has and you have what you have. Either you can live with it or not. You mentioned that you enjoyed the orgasms from oral, but were not satisfied during intercourse...that may just be the way it is. Some women don't ogasm at all, or if they do, it's a rare occasion. I've found it's always best (in all areas of life not just sex) to focus on what you have rather than what you don't have.

Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 10:08am
Hi Toastedmarshmallow!
I am so glad that someone feels the same way that I do. Although I am in a realtionship with my first partner, I KNOW he is small. Honestly, about 3 1/2 inches erect. I have had oral sex with men that have a much larger penis. I urge & desire to know what it is like to be with someone bigger, the fullness has to be great! The curiousity is killing me, I want the experience.
Knowing where you are coming from, I wanted to share that he and I had anal sex for the first time last night and I LOVED it! It gets me very aroused and it feels full in that area, LOL! As for vaginal sex and getting the fullness feeling, don't think you or I can achieve that with our current partners. Hang in there. I am! But as someone else mentioned, men with a small penis are aware of it and try to please their partners in other ways. Very true, but at least you have orgasms, you are a step above me. Be thankful that you can at least achieve that!
By the way, I feel him better when I am on top! The doggystyle position does nothing for me, however many people on this site recommend it, they need to understand we are talking about a very small man! It slips out and I can not even feel him that way. Good luck babe!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 10:15am

Either accept him as is, continue to work around his size, accept that you will never have that fullness with him or move on. His penis will never grow so either you can accept that or you can't.

It's been 8 mos. now and it's still an issue so I doubt you're going to be able to let it go....UNLESS he means more to you than that.

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Registered: 08-18-2005
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 12:06pm

I was once with a less than well-endowed man, here's a position that worked really well for us.

Have him sit on the couch or your bed or whatever, as long as he's sitting with his back against something and his legs extended. Straddle him from on top and over his thighs. Then, this is something he has to do, have him grab your hips and pull/push you away from him and back against him as fast and hard as he can... it's not "riding him", because it's impossible to duplicate from the woman's side of things... it's literally pushing and pulling your body against his penis in a different way. Nice for clit stimulation, and it's an entirely different sensation for you both as far as sex goes.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Tue, 08-23-2005 - 12:53am

Absolutely Marshmallow. I'm pretty close to your bfs size (I've been blessed with 3.5 inches) so I've had lots of expereince at this. Try this: While on your back place a pillow under your hips so your vulva is angled upwards. After he enters you bend your knees and pull your knees up towards your chest with your hands. If possible place your knees over his shoulders. This positions allows for maximum penetration depth and works great for partners of shorter endowed guys. I learned this from a book on sex positions that was labeled "The best position for couples with a small penis." And it is.

And you are right - doggie does not work - slips right on out. Frustrating! Make sure he's giving you alot of great oral sex. It is a big equalizer. And as another female poster wisely noted she and her shorter endowed DH use a large sex toy when she needs deeper penetration. I have found this to be a need most of my lovers have expressed too. Some have told me my penis length makes them feel "very loved but ... hungrier" so we've used a love toy when she needs to feel full. So there you go. Give em a try.

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Registered: 11-22-2004
Tue, 08-23-2005 - 12:39pm
I agree, that's the way to do it. The pillow-under-bum thing is great, and the legs-on-shoulders thing is great. I often take it a step further and actually put the soles of my feet on his chest -- as he leans into me it pushes my knees down below either side of my body. Current bf is not small by any means, but past ones have been and I have found this is by far the way for him to go the deepest. In fact if he has a large penis and you are petite like me you have to be really careful or he can hurt you quite easily. It's a fairly extreme experience, almost like you're surfing the boundary between unspeakable pleasure and quite a bit of pain. But if you're flexible, no matter what size penis he has this seems to me (after much practice lol) to be the deepest way by far.
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:44am
Having tried them all iphillippa - you are right - this is by far the best position for maximum depth. Which is extremely helpful especially when you are trying to conceive - which can be a challenge for us shorter guys as I've found out. blonde

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