Couples are faced with differing desires often. The best solution is trying to find a compromise that will allow each of you to remain within your own boundaries. You let him know that you would like to try this -- he's not interested. If you keep trying to push it on him, he may become resentful. He may also give it a try, but reluctantly, which can build resentment within your relationship.
Some couples have found that they can carry out their fantasy with role play or by incorporating sex toys, or a combination of the two. Adding another person to the intimate area of your relationship carries huge risks.
As far as wondering about having sex with another person (in general), that's something you need to think about. Is it worth risking your relationship over, is it something you think you can spend a lifetime wondering about? Many people never have more than one partner in a lifetime. For some, it works ... for others, it doesn't.
Another board here, Taboos, has a folder (I think the 3rd one down) that is called "Open Relationships". Several members post there regularly who also have relationships that include more than 1 sexual partner. You might want to check it out and get some feedback there. Here's the link: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rltaboos.
Good luck with what ever you decide to do. Feel free to stay around, ask more questions, or read about what others are doing within their own relationships.
Welcome to the board, sunstar_goddess.
Couples are faced with differing desires often. The best solution is trying to find a compromise that will allow each of you to remain within your own boundaries. You let him know that you would like to try this -- he's not interested. If you keep trying to push it on him, he may become resentful. He may also give it a try, but reluctantly, which can build resentment within your relationship.
Some couples have found that they can carry out their fantasy with role play or by incorporating sex toys, or a combination of the two. Adding another person to the intimate area of your relationship carries huge risks.
As far as wondering about having sex with another person (in general), that's something you need to think about. Is it worth risking your relationship over, is it something you think you can spend a lifetime wondering about? Many people never have more than one partner in a lifetime. For some, it works ... for others, it doesn't.
Another board here, Taboos, has a folder (I think the 3rd one down) that is called "Open Relationships". Several members post there regularly who also have relationships that include more than 1 sexual partner. You might want to check it out and get some feedback there. Here's the link: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rltaboos.
Good luck with what ever you decide to do. Feel free to stay around, ask more questions, or read about what others are doing within their own relationships.
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