Society, Sex, and Sexual Hang Ups

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Society, Sex, and Sexual Hang Ups
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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 12:43am
The recent insintuations that society is the reason why many people don't engage in sexual acts that are outside the realm of what's considered "normal", has got me wondering why people think this, and who *actually* believes it. Now, it seems that many think that it is somehow pushed to be "traditional", and that many people supress their true sexual feelings because of this. I happen to think that is entirely untrue. If anything, I think society has always pushed our boundaries, which I think have gotten farther and farther out. For instance, I think threesomes are becoming talked about alot more and have become very common place on TV. Porn is mentioned so casually, it is treated as no big deal. When I was growing up it was quite different. Look at how quickly people are to put down those who wish to abstain from something like threesomes, calling them jealous, close minded, prudish, etc. They are made to feel like they are uncool and uptight. I think right now, it isn't good to be traditional. You're square, boring. I will also say, that many of these people wear it like a badge, as if they are more sexually adventerous than everyone else. I also think society doesn't have alot of influence on people's personal choices, although I think to some extent it does. I think you're upbringing has the most affect. I had both sides. My Dad was very uptight, didn't talk to us about sex *ever* (except to scold us if we ever even hugged a male friend), but my mother talked alot(too much sometimes lol). She told us about threesomes she had been in etc. I was never taught that threesomes were wrong(my Dad never spoke to us about them), yet I still am not going to be in one. I don't find it to be a sexual hang up. What is everyone's thoughts on this? I am hoping to understand what it is that makes people think *jealous* or *close minded* when someone doesn't choose a less traveled road.

Leticia

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 3:57pm
I agree that society and the media has more impact on the young, unfortunately. I think many are rejecting the sexual trends of the moment though, as they experiment and discover the consequences and downfalls for themselves.

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