some advice appreciated

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Registered: 01-14-2005
some advice appreciated
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Fri, 01-14-2005 - 4:22pm
My boyfriend has asked me to try and ..."do more" during intercourse. The fourplay is great, but when it comes down to doin the deed, i'm not sure what to do with my body, so i end up just laying there. any advice on how to really turn him on?
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Fri, 01-14-2005 - 4:54pm

Well, first of all, he IS turned on, or he wouldn't be there, doing that! What he'd like is some show of "enthusiasm" from you. If you're just "laying there" doing nothing...it's not showing him that you're enjoying it.

Your hands are free......TOUCH him. Play with his nipples.....grab his butt and pull him into you...look into his eyes and say things....USE YOUR IMAGINATION!

Imagine if you were on top, and he was just laying there like he was dead! How would that make YOU feel?

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Fri, 01-14-2005 - 4:55pm

No one wants to be responsible for making things happen for BOTH of you in bed! The best sex is when you're both equally participating. It will turn YOU on more if you allow yourself to get taken over by arousal.

Sounds like all he's asking for is more responsiveness from you. He wants to hear and see your pleasure and for you take more responsibility for it. In other words, move in the way that that helps YOU enjoy it more. But then, he may want you to grab his buttocks or pinch his nipples or scratch up his back, too, so he needs to be more clear about what he's thinking.

Men enjoy feeling sexy and desirable, just like we do, and he probably wants to feel that you're doing this for YOU as much as for him. So show him that.

But if you aren't getting enough stimulation, tell him what you need. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation all the way through intercourse to orgasm and many men don't know this. So if your arousal wanes after foreplay ends, then you need to tell him and ask for what you need!

Good luck!




Edited 1/14/2005 5:33 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 01-14-2005 - 5:30pm
As the others said, show enthusiasm, move your hips to meet his, rub his hair, back, arms, play with his nipples, wrap your legs around his waist, put

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