something i've NEVER been asked to do...

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Registered: 07-31-2007
something i've NEVER been asked to do...
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:24am

I've been going out with my boyfriend for only about a month and a couple weeks. We have been having sex for a few weeks and 2 weeks ago he asked me to, how you say... "toss his salad"... this makes me VERY uncomfortable, like I have a fear of doing it. He's telling me I better get over that fear. Some ex girlfriend did it to him and he likes it A LOT. I just don't think I can do it, I just wanted to know how many people do that. Is it a common thing? I mean I have honestly NEVER been asked to do that. Also anal sex, I just can't do that either. He put his fingers in there, but it felt like I was going to have to go to the bathroom...yeah...anyway... I'm starting to think I can't handle him sexually...we have sex a lot, but he says he needs more sex and also for me to get over my fear of licking his @$$hole. Yuck its was even hard for me to type that. I need advice big time.

Thank you.

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 10:15am

You go girl! Glad to hear that you stood up for yourself and realized that there are many men out there that would be lucky to have you!

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:08pm
Thank you :) Where are men??? lol
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Registered: 07-31-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:09pm

Im 110% out of the relationship. Thank goodness.

Whats a facial?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:32pm

It does sound like you are better off being out of this relationship.

A facial is when a man cums on your face.



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Registered: 08-06-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:40pm
Hi for a person like myself who enjoys sex i can tell you that i have tossed my man's salad but he never asked me to. i understand and agree with you but i honestly do not think you should especially since you've been with him for only a month. i was with mine for three years and we are about to have a child together. unless you honestly think he's worth it and he means that much to you. but to be with a man for only a month i'am not to sure thats enough time. for him to bring it up who knows if he's just trying to start a poll on how many girls did it to him. i have a few questions to ask you if you dont mind. how long was he with her, when she did it to him?, has he ever did it to you?, and the last comment is why did he mention that his last girlfriend did it to him? did you ask? and if you didnt then that means he was trying to persuade you to do it just because his last girlfriend did, and who knows he probably wants to compare you. if you feel that uncomfertable with doing it when he asked then DO NOT DO IT! what if you guys break up then you will feel very uncomfertable knowing that he had the pleasure to have your tounge in a place where noone else has had it.
worst case scenario if you are going to do it make sure you are under the influence of something, LOL
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:45pm

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Registered: 12-28-2006
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:58pm
I would say he donest care as much about you as does about the sex. Dump him
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 4:40pm
Congradulations! You're free from a tyrant and you'll be so much happier. Chalk this up to experience that you don't want to repeat. Never let anyone take your power away! Never let anyone make you feel bad about yourself either.
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Registered: 07-31-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 8:22pm
My problem now - finding the men that I would be lucky to have too!!!
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Registered: 07-31-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 8:35pm

I had that same thought in my head - if we broke up then I would have felt very uncomfortable, and disgusted in myself for letting him get me to do it.

I'm not sure how long he was with her, he had been in 2 year and a half relationships, so Im assuming it was one of those.

After he asked me to do it to him, I asked him why. He said because it feels so good to him. I said so someones done it to you? He said yes, an ex girlfriend. He also said she put a dildo up there too....which kinda freaked me out...quite a bit.

He has never done it to me, but he also wanted me to rub it and put my fingers in ... he did that to me without me asking/telling/knowing he was going to. He did it and it felt awful and i told him to stop, he did but was like you don't like that?? i was like no it feels like I have to umm yeah....go to the bathroom..

anyway...Im through with him. One month and hes telling me to do something and freaking out over stupid stuff and demanding and controlling....DONE i tell ya! and so much better off. So relieved!