something i've NEVER been asked to do...

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Registered: 07-31-2007
something i've NEVER been asked to do...
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:24am

I've been going out with my boyfriend for only about a month and a couple weeks. We have been having sex for a few weeks and 2 weeks ago he asked me to, how you say... "toss his salad"... this makes me VERY uncomfortable, like I have a fear of doing it. He's telling me I better get over that fear. Some ex girlfriend did it to him and he likes it A LOT. I just don't think I can do it, I just wanted to know how many people do that. Is it a common thing? I mean I have honestly NEVER been asked to do that. Also anal sex, I just can't do that either. He put his fingers in there, but it felt like I was going to have to go to the bathroom...yeah...anyway... I'm starting to think I can't handle him sexually...we have sex a lot, but he says he needs more sex and also for me to get over my fear of licking his @$$hole. Yuck its was even hard for me to type that. I need advice big time.

Thank you.

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 8:37pm

10 steps ahead of you!

I agree about the sex - I mean he told me I was "the one" and all this other stuff, but then he's like I need more sex, and if I didnt get over my fear of rimming then basically he would find it somewhere else...not a way to keep someone, at least not me ..

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 7:43pm
to start off here, i am a guy, and I have never wanted to try that. me and my bride to be dont always get along with our likes and dislikes in the bedroom, but we make compromises so thast way things dont go bad. just sit down and talk to him, he might be hesitant at first but try to compromise it might help things.
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 7:57am

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 12:37pm

I did sit down and talk with him for an hour. He was sweet and nice and apologetic. But that was just an act im sure. He is the type of guy who thinks being a man means controlling "his woman" and also that I should basically be at his beck and call and do whatever he asks . He said something like when I say jump you should ask how high. and also he called me a piece of $hit so I broke it off with him. It was a bad relationship that was probably going to get worse.

Thank you for your reply, and good luck with your fiance/marriage!

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Registered: 10-30-2003
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 5:19pm

Hello Liz,

Glad your out of this.

You have done yourself and him both a favor by stopping this relationship now.

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 12:47am
Yes, but he contacted me today asking to take me out....i didnt even respond.
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Registered: 08-07-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 7:47pm

I know the main focus of this discussion has been whether or not you should keep seeing this guy. And while he didn't go about it in the best way and you are better off without a partner that tries to threaten you, you may think about how you would handle this in a better relationship. What happens if the man you marry, after several years tells you he would like to experiment. Are you comfortable enough with yourself and sex to explore each other in new ways? Or would you dismiss his suggestions as "gross." I may be way off base here, but once you give in to fully exploring sex within an permanent intimate relationship you may be surprised by what turns you on.

Analingus was such a thing for me. My ex and I tried it a couple of times and he loved me doing it to him. I didn't get much out of it, so we dropped it from our sex life. But with my husband now - I love it! A good deal of the "sex smell" comes from around that area and I find that to be a huge turn on. But that's just me. It's not for everyone obviously.

That's just my opinion for whatever it's worth.

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