something wrong?

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Registered: 02-03-2006
something wrong?
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 12:23pm
Okay, so my boyfriend was playing with my nipples and i couldn't feel it. They get hard but i couldn't tell if he was touching them or not! Or when he sucks on them and licks them, i can't feel it. is something wrong?? What can i do to feel it?? and i have to play with myself during sex to orgasm. I've orgasmed from sex without masturbating before...but i couldn't with my boyfriend whom i'm more comfortable with then i was with the last guy. What's some tips on ensuring orgasms from sex? maybe more foreplay? or just having sex longer? or what? please help me!!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 2:34pm

If your nipples are insensitive, there's nothing you can do to make them sensitive. That's just the way YOU are. Everyone is different. Some women's are sensitive, some are'nt.

As for orgasms from "sex"....you mean from intercourse. That's very common, most women (80%)don't have orgasms from intercourse alone......they need clitoral stimulation at the same time. You're one who needs it. In both cases, it's "normal" for you. What's normal for others is NOT normal for you!

There is virtually NO feeling inside your vagina (you feel the fullness, you feel the "friction", but not sexual excitement), with the exception of the "g" spot, and that's why you need clitoral stimulation. Your clitoris is your REAL sex organ, not your vagina.....that's where all the feeling and nerve endings are, and that's what brings on orgasms, not intercourse, unless you can manage to stimulate the "g" spot during intercourse.

To get clitoral stimulation during intercourse, you can do it, he can do it, or your postion can do it.....WOT is great for that.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 4:04pm

Welcome to the board goddessbritney.

I personally had what I termed "under-reactive nipples" for most of my life! I have large breasts and was always a bit shocked that my nipples were not very reactive to stimulation. In the past year, that has changed, along with my raging hormonal changes associated with the onset of menopause. My DH and I are both shocked (but happy) at how large and sensitive my nipples can become.

As for sex with your current BF, each guy is different. Just because you had orgasms more easily with a past lover, does not ensure that the next lover will work out the same. A lot of things can play into that. Trying different positions can be helpful, having him in a position that bumps your cervix (deeper) or rubs your g-spot (more shallow) can help you to have an orgasm during intercourse.

Have there been any changes with this BF that you did not experience in the past? New medications or birth control? It is possible that something is affecting your hormones? If so, that could produce some of the changes that you are mentioning.



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