Something is wrong with me!

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Registered: 05-24-2004
Something is wrong with me!
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 12:23pm
HI!
well, for the past couple of days, i have not been able to get fully aroused. I dont know why. He is doing things that usually work and then some. It hurts a lot more now too. I want to get intimate and enjoy myself , but i just cant lately. Am i going through some kind of dry spell? lol What can i, we do to make this more enjoyable? Please help. thanks
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 12:41pm
No, there's nothing wrong with you.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 2:41pm

Hi pinkbubbles,

What you are experiencing is utterly, utterly human. THere is no one that has not, or will not have this experience in their life. The only way this is a problem is if you worry about it and become attached to finding a solution. I would recommend for a while, just finding different ways to be intimate: give each other massages, cuddle in front of a movie. If you would like to give him an orgasm, do so by hand or orally...but don't do it unless it brings you some joy. The harder that you try to force this, the more difficult it will be for you to get back your desire. If you let go of it and just enjoy being together your desire will probably be back in a week or two.

In other words, don't worry about it...it's normal.

Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 05-24-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 12:26pm
Thanks!
I feel a little iffy about using lubricants, are they safe? will i get some kind of bacterial infection? I never tried, but i am willing. Also my boyfriend thinks that i may not desire him like i did, and its totally false. i tell him this and he gets a little frustrated.
thanks,
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 1:07pm
Lubes are safe to use and there shouldn't be a problem using them.

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Registered: 05-24-2004
Sat, 11-20-2004 - 12:11pm
well,
i tried the lube ky warming liquid and all was good!
I am so glas i asked for advice because i seriously thought i was having some kind of weird thing going on with my body. also my boyfriend thought that i didnt want him or desire like i did and i told him that its not true and we tried the ky. i was happy he was happy! Thanks