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| Wed, 07-06-2005 - 12:24am |
I have a question for everyone.
For those of you who are in monogomous relationships, does it bother you at all knowing your so could be fantasizing of sex with others? I know it's natural to fantasize but do you ever feel kind of protective and think "Heeeeey...they should be fantasizing about me!"
Ever since I found out my bf has a fetish for asian girls I've noticed that sometimes when I see a hot asian girl around us I get a kinda uncomfortable knowing that he totally thinks about her sexually or something. It's not severe but it's something that pops up in my mind once in a while.
I'm not a jealous person. I have my fantasies too but there about Brad Pitt and Eddie Vedder (Pearl Jam)! These are people I'll most likely never encounter. (OMG IF I DID...LOL) But asian girls..are everywhere, it's more realistic and I think that's why it kind of think of it as a threat more. But yea, do you guys ever feel that way..sort of protective?
Just wonderin.. :o)
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This reminds me of the old saying... "It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home"
I think it is about trust. If Dh sees a woman that he thinks is hot that's fine with me. I will sometimes even point someone out to him. I'll say something like "hey, check her out...nice *&^% huh?" (and he's been known to do the same) Sometimes he'll agree, other times not.
It has never bothered me because I know that he will be comming home with me and I will be the one to benefit.
I never gave it a thought. tee hee When you do something yourself, you assume that the other is doing the same exact thing and can't possibly see it as wrong! ;-)
I have never, in thirty years of having sex have ever fantasized about someone else while I was having sex with my SO(I was always in the moment). I just assumed it was the same for them....naive of me, I know. tee hee
I do(well actually did...in the past years my fantasies are all about him) fantasize about others while going solo, so no, it doesn't bother me that DH most likely is as well.