Speaking of orgasms
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| Sun, 04-29-2007 - 11:28pm |
A recent poster mentioned that she has not been able to have an orgasm with a partner, but can by herself. A response to her was from someone who said unfortunately most women do not have orgasms with their male partners.
Is this true? I orgasm every time during intercourse, and really fast. Usually it takes less than a minute for the first, real intense one, and I can usually have one or two more less intense ones after that. I really think my husband is happy about this, because when we first started making love, he told me I was "easy" (to be able to make orgasm - not in any derogatory context ). I think he had difficulty with his last girlfriend achieving orgasm.
Anyway, I am curious to know if I should count my blessings because I am "easy". Do most women have difficulty with this when they are with their partner?

All women are different. Most women don't have orgasms from intercourse alone. Most women need clitoral stimulation.....and maybe you're getting that simply from your position. No matter what, if you have them, enjoy them. Most women eventually learn how to have them.....some sooner than others.
As for your husband's previous partners, it had nothing to do with him...if he was doing the right things, and they weren't having them, it was because they didn't know how. He's more than likely doing the same things with/for you, and you DO know how to allow them to happen.
Women don't control men's erections or ejaculations.....men don't control women's orgasms.
If I were you, I would count my blessings ;-) Many women don't have orgasms at all, so you are way ahead of the crowd. I also have orgasms from intercourse, but your head does have to be in the right place. I think a lot of women that don't have orgasms don't know how to get their head in the right place.
I'm sure your DH is happy about your ability, as it makes the entire experience better for him as well. It can be very frustrating for a guy if he wants you to be satisfied and you're not. He is going to equate an orgasm with satisfaction -- even though that isn't always the case. My DH loves watching (or feeling) me have an orgasm. I think a lot of it does have to do with your partner. Let him know that it's easy to be "easy" with him ;-)
Hello mochagirl12 and welcome to the board.
Are you able to have orgasms on your own when masturbating? Having an orgasm is a feeling that you first have to recognize, and also your head has to be in the right place. If you are thinking about it, it's not likely to happen. Learning to relax, enjoy the pleasure and recognize the onset of an orgasm will give you a greater chance of actually having an orgasm (with or without a partner).
A website you might want to visit is the-clitoris.com. It offers a lot of information about the female genitals and how they react to stimulation.
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