Special Night... any advice?
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Special Night... any advice?
| Mon, 10-31-2005 - 8:23pm |
I'm in need of some suggestions. Alright, so my boyfriend is deployed in Iraq at the moment, but will be returning home in March! We are planning on having sex for the first time.. and I know he's been wanting this for a LONG time! The thing was, I just wasn't fully ready, and now that I am... we plan on doing this in March! I know the fact that he's been wanting this so badly, will make it great, however, is there anything I can do, to really put a smile on his face!?! What can I do, to really put him over the top, and make the night extra special??? Anyone have ANY recommendations? Anything I should wear, do, say??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!!!
* Joey's Girl *

Believe it or not, just the fact that he will be home, that he will be with you, and he'll be happy to be there will be enough to put him "over the top". You can make all the special arrangements you want to, but he won't see them, or notice them. You can wear whatever you want to, but he's not going to be paying attention.
Before you worry about making anything "special".....just get his homecoming over with. LATER when things calm down, then you can start thinking about special things.
Any time a man has been away, whether at school, on a long business trip, or the worst of all, in a war, JUST being home will be enough for him. I would guess that if you made a special meal for him, it would never get eaten. Just welcome him home with open arms, that's all he needs or wants.
March is a long time away........anticipation will make it special for both of you!
You've got some time to think about and organise things. That's good. There are so many options depending on what you want or what appeals to you. Living arrangements, budget etc will have to be factored in too.
Firstly, make sure that you are in private and will not be disturbed. That's essential. A hotel room would be best. That's if you can get away from the family that will be pleased and wanting to see him. The first night home may not be the best night to plan this.
It's a very good idea that both of you, especially you, are relaxed. So don't do anything too exciting or complicated. Keep it simple. And anyway, it'll give him more time to focus on you, to reflect on how it's your first time, and to remember YOU when he thinks about this night later.
I think that a hotel room, a bubble bath, a bottle of wine (or a few beers if he prefers), soft music, and a dozen candles would be perfect. But then I'm a sucker for romance and simplicity. The really spectacular stuff - like swinging from the lampshades or the pole dancing can be done later at another time in my opinion.
I'd be a sucker for you wearing a simple silky white chemise that comes to mid thigh with thin strappy straps if I was in that situation.
Here's a thought, while it comes to my mind; are you the type of girl to wear a skirt? You could always meet him at the airport and not wear underwear? I suppose that his family will be there too so that might be a bit risky :-) He'd definitely remember that though! LOL!
Best wishes. Hope you figure out a good plan.
Edited 11/1/2005 12:08 am ET by westridge2001