stating a preference

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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 6:50pm

Following on from the never ending debates that we have on penis size, my question is "can one possibly find a positive aspect to caring about penis size, be it either your own or that of a partner?"

This thread is not about what size you prefer, because it's quite obvious that some care and some don't. And that some will never believe that others have a different opinion to their own. That aspect is NOT UP FOR DISCUSSION on this thread.

My attitude to life is that if it can't be changed, then don't worry about it. Likewise, worrying about penis size - whether it be your own - or that of your partner - can only be a harmful activity. More than half of the posts about penis sizes started here are started by men - which only goes to that such concerns only give birth to more insecurities.

One poster compared what he believed to be women's lack of honesty on the subject to that of a woman who says "do I look fat in this?". The fat question (if asked with an open mind) can have a positive outcome. When I ask how I look in a dress, I expect an honest answer....so that I don't look stupid in the street. By asking the question, the outcome (appearance) can be altered and make for a more positive outcome.

The same cannot be said for the penis debate.

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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 12:22pm
If it boils down to the "fit" then I guess then that that would be the **sole** basis of choosing a partner, correct? It wouldn't matter that they're a perfect person otherwise, because they'd be tossed for incorrect size. "I'm sorry, we have to break up...we don't fit properly." ;-)
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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 12:25pm
...or mind over matter?
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 1:09pm

***Edited*** I was a B cup (I'm a C now)when I was young and I never felt that I needed bigger boobs to be desirable. In fact, I was oblivious I guess because I really didn't think that they meant all that much. tee hee(oh to learn the truth!) In my naivetee I thought that all the male attention I was getting was due to my overall attractiveness and personality...oi vey. ;-) So I wasn't programmed to believe that bigger boobs were better or would make me more desirable...or at least I didn't pick up on it if I was. tee hee




Edited 5/2/2005 3:06 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 4:19pm

obviously I didnt mean if it doesnt fit we must then quit ( the relationship)..lol

Im just stating that where it comes to preference, most are looking for a good fit..what ever that fit may mean to them.

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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 4:26pm
oh, ok...so then size doesn't matter. ;-)
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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 4:48pm
rain..you said.."oh, ok...so then size doesn't matter. ;-)"........lol well if its not the right size it might not fit well...;)
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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 4:57pm
yes, but you said that you wouldn't NOT select a partner even if it didn't...so...size doesn't matter. ;-)


Edited 5/2/2005 4:58 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 11:49pm

>>"can one possibly find a positive aspect to caring about penis size, be it either your own or that of a partner?"<<

I can't say that there are any positive aspects about it if you feel that the penis you have is not big enough. But as the others have said, it's a moot point. You have what you have and you can't do anything significant about it. You can't talk about it in positive or negative terms.

If you boil it down to just physical sensation, I'm sure that all women want a penis that feels good inside them. Size and technique are two of the main contributing factors towards it feeling good and both are relative to the individual. Every woman is going to be happy with a certain different combination of size and technique. Obviously for some size is going to be more important than everything else. Likewise, for others technique will be the main factor. However, I'm sure everyone has certain minimal requirements - for the majority of women a penis of 2" will be too small. A complete lack of technique isn't likely to appeal to too many women. It also seems likely that there is a median level that will keep most women satisfied - good technique and a penis in the medium to larger range seems to keep the majority of women happy. But throw in other personal attributes, emotions and relationships and the whole thing gets more complicated.

At the end of the day I don't think that you can view it in black and white, positive/negative terms. There are too many shades of grey and degrees of satisfaction to discuss it in either positive or negative terms.




Edited 5/2/2005 11:52 pm ET ET by westridge2001
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Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:12am
I said if it didnt fit well and I loved her it wasnt a deal breaker..but I did find one that fit well..so......
In the words of my trusted friend..."as long as it is long enough to not be slipping out, and as long as it is thick enough to be felt, thats all she cares". Others may feel differently.Shes had from 4" to 9" so she knows what SHE likes.she also said given a choice she would take more girth instead of more length, and average length was perfect for her. For preference I guess its different strokes for different folks.

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