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| Tue, 11-09-2004 - 11:31am |
I went to the doctor today and found out I have an STD.........genital warts.......I am so upset! Now even the guy I liked doesn't want to be with me. Why me!!! I am so upset. It makes me just not want to tell guys I meet that I have this. then one of my friends said "you could just find someone who has it too" That makes me feel no better.

did you not use protection?
i'm pretty sure that withholding that kind of information from someone who you are sexually active with is against the law. i know it is w/ hiv/aids so i'd be very careful. i think it's fair that your partner is aware of your situation. i know if i was w/ someone who didn't tell me i'd rip his balls off - not even lying. it's a shame that it happened to you, i'm very sorry, but its people like who you got it from (i'm assuming)that withold this kinda stuff from partners that help spread the disease. i'm sure that someone out there will love you and stick by you regardless of the std. i've seen it happen before
Did you doctor explain to you all about
I just want to share with you that just because you have genital warts does not mean that you will never be able to be sexually active.
I'll tell you a little story... After living with my husband for two years, we were planning our wedding. He was going through a really rough, stressful time (His Mom was very ill) and for a couple of weeks, he would not have sex of any kind with me. When I confronted him, he told me that he had contracted herpes before he met me and he was having an outbreak. He expected it was due to the extreeme stress. He never told me because he had not had an outbreak since we had been together. Yes, I was mad that he never told me but we worked it out. Anyway, I tell you this because we are very careful and he always lets me know if he has an outbreak and after 17 years of marriage I have never contracted the virus. He has only had a couple of outbreaks in all these years.
Now, of course, you need to tell any potential partner but, If you use precautions, you do not have to pass it on. I dont know about warts but, I think they are similar to herpes in that you will not always be contagious? Speak to your doctor, do the research, and find out how to be safe.
To the OP - at this point, worry more about getting yourself treated than about potential sex partners. Get all the info you need from your doc, educate yourself. If you need to have warts removed, get a referral to a good plastic surgeon. And MAKE SURE you get a Pap done every 6 months from now on. If you have clear Paps for a long time, your GYN may feel comfortable having them just once a year. Go by her recommendations and make sure you do it. There is a connection between HPV and cervical cancer, although now studies show that strain that produces warts may not be the strain that causes cervical cancer. But better safe than sorry.
I have HPV. I got it when DH and I were dating, one of us had it from a previous partner and passed it on to the other unknowingly. Neither of us knew until we both started breaking out into 'bumps' almost at the same time. We both had the warts removed and have never had another one since, although we both now have the virus. We've had no health problems whatsoever in regards to this, in 21 years. I had Paps every 6 mos, for 15 years, until a few years ago my doc said she felt comfortable doing them once a year. They've all come back fine.
Once you meet someone that you might become intimate with, you *must* do the right thing and be honest. He can use condoms, although they're not a 100% guarantee that he won't catch it. But he may make that decision that he's not as worried about the risk or that he is willing to risk it and live with the consequences. But take care of yourself first, and cross the bridge (of future partners) when you come to it.