STD problem

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Registered: 05-17-2005
STD problem
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 4:37pm

I've been seeing this guy for over three months now and he told me in the beginning that he had genital warts. For that reason I've been waiting on the sex and he has been very very understanding and extremely patient about it. I really do like him (maybe love?) but am unsure if I want to risk catching this if it doesn't work out. I know that it can't kill me but what if it doesn't work out? Then I am stuck with it and will have just as a hard of a time finding someone as he had. Any suggestions?

Danyelle

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In reply to: danyelle480
Mon, 05-22-2006 - 6:13pm

All you can do is use condoms and be vigilant about protecting yourself. IF you love him though, you'll deal with it.

I would agree that you need to wait to decide where this is going BEFORE bringing sex into the picture.

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In reply to: danyelle480
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 1:14am

You say nothing about your feelings for him.....only that you're holding off on the sex, and he's being patient. I'd give him points for being honest, at least.

Hon, it's a lot more serious than you having a hard time finding another partner in the future. (Just the fact that you're thinking about the future says that you're not very interested in this guy!) Genital warts, or HPV will increase your chances of getting cervical cancer. It can be passed on to a baby during childbirth. It can be spread even if you use condoms, and even if he's not having an outbreak.

If it was me, unless I was convinced that I'd be spending my life with him, I'd pass.

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In reply to: danyelle480
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 10:15am

Dakine ....
Thanks for adding that. Condoms don't protect against genital warts or HPV.

CH

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In reply to: danyelle480
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 10:51am
No, maybe not, but that's all a dr. would advise her to do if she wants to be with this guy. And she has to decide that for herself.
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In reply to: danyelle480
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 7:08pm

You are right. I didn't talk about my feelings for him. It is more than just a physical attraction. I really do like him and might even love him. He is a great guy and is very good to me and my son. The reason I think about the future is that I have been divorced and almost married my baby's father. I know the possibility is there that things may not work out. But it just feels so right when I am with him and I want so much for things to progress. I know that sex will come up and I think I just wanted a few objective opinions because my friends and family are too biased when I talk to them about it or I think that they are telling me what they think I want to hear. I have looked up medical info on it too. So I know what I may be getting myself into. I wanted someone else's opinion in order to help me make my decision. I thank everyone for their imput. I really do appreciate it.

Danyelle

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