STD Question

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Registered: 08-26-2003
STD Question
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 1:22pm
Hi, my ex of about 4 months ago recently called and told me that he had clamedia (spelling is wayyyy off - sorry!). He started accusing me of giving it to him which I know is a lie since he was the first I had been with in 2 years. Anyway, I started seeing someone else and after a month or so, we were intimate. Then of coarse came the phone call of his STD saying that I should get tested. I went to the doctor and got antibiotics and was treated as if I had the infection. Needless to say, my ex said he was going to get retested because he didn't believe that he had it. He was supposed to call me with his results. when I called him back, they 'lost' the first test and he had to go for another. That was over 2 weeks ago and he still hasn't let me know if it came back positive. I thought it was him trying to get me from being intimate with my new guy. Anyway... if I was infected (which I don't know if I really had cause to be concerned or not) how likely is that I would have infected my new partner? We used a condom - can it still be caught?>>>
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: sbarrya826
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 3:12pm

Your time frame is very confusing.....and a few other parts of your post are confusing. Your ex from 4 months ago called and said he had Chlamydia. He blamed you. You hadn't been with anyone for two years before him. You can have Chlamydia with NO symptoms, so you might have had it from your prior partner if you didn't use condoms.

You went to the doctor, and you were treated AS IF you had the infection? Weren't you tested? What kind of doctor would give antibiotics without knowing whether they were needed or not? Did your current partner get tested? If you'd been having unsafe sex with him, and you had it, then you gave it to him. You are contagious until you FINISH the antibiotics. Which doesn't matter because you had sex with him before you started the antibiotics.

Your ex's test results don't matter. He might have gotten it after you left him, but there is a possiblility that you gave it to him, so you need to be tested, and so does your current b/f. If you gave it to him, he will give it right back to you! If there is ANY tissue contact before the condom is put on, it can be transmitted, probably including orally. For your own health, and the health of any future children, you need to be sure you no longer have it, if you ever did.

For more info on Chlamydia, check out: http://www.cdc.gov/std/Chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm

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Registered: 08-26-2003
In reply to: sbarrya826
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 3:24pm

To clarify - I had a son and hadn't been with anyone but his father before my ex. During the pregnancy (at the first) I was tested for everything for the health sake of the baby and was given a clean bill of health. so that is why I dont' think it came from me. I went to the emergency room and explained the situation (because I was told on a Friday night and coudln't wait until Monday to try and get to my own doctor). When I explained to him that I hadn't been with my ex for months, experienced so systems - he gave me antibiotics as a percaution and told me that I probably didnt' have it. He told me to follow up with my doctor after my treatment.

I asked if it can be transmitted, if I was indeed infected, while using a condom. There was no oral, no touching without protection. How safe is a condom from perventing the spread of this?

Hope I don't sounds too naive - I never had to deal with this before and dont' want to alert my new man (whom I care alot about) without reason.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: sbarrya826
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 3:34pm

This isn't a question of "feelings" for him. It's a question of his health, too. It's highly unlikely that IF you had it you would have given it to him if you were using condoms. But there is no way now to know whether or not you had it because you weren't tested before, and after the treatment, you'll test negative.

You'll have to use your own judgement to decide whether or not to tell him. Don't think of it as something awful, it's a fact of life, and anyone can get it.

Also, if anything like this ever comes up again, do NOT go to the emergency room. If you'd had it, then you'd had it for months, and waiting a few days to go to your own doctor would have made no difference, except that your doctor WOULD have tested you, and you'd have the answer you'll never get now.

Your ex was probably just being spiteful. IF he had it, he could have gotten it anywhere, before or after he broke up with you. Also, if you did use condoms with him all the time, then it's unlikely that either of you would have given it to the other.

As long as no ejaculate touches your tissue, then you're protected with condoms. The only STD that condoms can't protect you from is Herpes, or HPV.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
In reply to: sbarrya826
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 6:07pm

Hi,

Chlamydia is a STD that can remain dormant without symptoms for many years, so you could have had it before you met your ex and not known about it. Around 80% of females never show symptoms, and the result of that is that over time Chlamydia can cause pelvic inflammatory disease, which can in turn make it difficult to conceive due to the damage it causes to the fallopian tubes etc.

If you have had antibiotics for it, make sure you get retested to be sure the infection is gone (assuming that your ex wasn't lying about having it). One dose of antibiotics does not guarantee that the infection will clear up.

Chlamydia is transmitted by an exchange of fluids. If you and your current partner have used condoms, then he should not have been given it. HOWEVER, Chlamydia can be contracted through oral sex, so if you have been giving each other oral sex, then he should be tested and treated as well.

Good luck

Janet

 


 


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Registered: 06-14-2002
In reply to: sbarrya826
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:46am

One point of clarification ....

Condoms do not protect against Chlamydia.

CH

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: sbarrya826
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 3:37pm

Condoms WILL prevent Chlamydia during vaginal intercourse. However, it can also be transmitted orally and anally....and if a condom or dental dam isn't used during oral, or a condom during anal, it can be transmitted that way.

Since it's a "silent" disease, it's become one of the most treated STD's. If you don't know you have it, you can spread it.

http://www.mydna.com/health/sexual/chlamydia/overview/basics.html