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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 9:46am
Let me start with the history of this story. My coworker (L) and I have been secretly seeing eachother on the side for a few months now. I was initially attracted to her, she's beautiful, but never thought it would go anywhere as previous to this I have only been with men. She brought it to my attention that she is open in her taste, and after a little talking, and a little drinking, I decided to go ahead and sleep with her. It was the best sex I've ever had, and I never looked back. So we have now been seeing each other on a regular basis without anyone knowing. That pretty much brings us up to date.

Ok so, a little while ago my coworker and I decided to go out to the bars. Her husband decided to come at the last minute. I had met her husband a few times before this, but we had never spent any real time together. He also did not know that I had been intimate with his wife. Well the three of us got along fabulously. We all had way too much to drink, and one thing led to another. We ended up back at their house and after a few more drinks, we ended up having a threesome. I was already comfortable with L, but adding her husband to the mix was amazing. I went home the next morning wondering why I had never done this before, and swearing to myself it wouldnt be the last time. And it wasn't. I believe the three of us got together about four times in one month. Each time better than the last. However I started realizing that I was really attracted to her husband more than the occasional "hookup" We started meeting for coffee and lunch breaks. (All without L knowing) Eventually I started tiring of L and my secret relationship, and wanted to go more for her husband. L obviously knows something is going on as I have been pulling away from her, but she would never guess that I am now sleeping with her husband behind her back. I feel really bad about this because initially I did have strong feelings for L, but I guess nothing can replace what a man can give you. What should I do? I don't like lying to L day after day, and she is getting pretty annoying with her constant whining about "us" There really isn't an "us" anymore, just the occasional pity sex to get her to quiet down.

Now my real problem. I recently met a new "girlfriend" and would like to introduce the husband to her, for a threesome. How do I do this without L finding out? She is really getting in the way now. TIA for your help

-- Karen--

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Registered: 11-07-2003
Sat, 10-02-2004 - 9:10pm
You know, Tish, I really wouldn't know that if given the choice, that I would have handed it all over to men(I think we'd be extinct by now tee hee). Those are things that I associate with being a woman, and they're constant reminders of the role that my body plays in the whole scheme of things. I guess that if men were the childbearers, then I would probably wonder what it must feel like to experience life within me. I don't know, I don't really think I'd want it any other way, no what I mean? Besides, if those things were conditional to owning a clitoris....well... ;-)

P.S. A little tidbit

I used to get horrible PMS, have horrible 7 day periods accompanied by horrible cramps, swelling, and a whole slew of lovey symptoms...ugh After I gave birth to my first child, walla! everything disappeared. I still had the bloating and other symptoms but I was cramp and PMS free(well sorta tee hee)! About two years later, they gradually began to creep up again. I remember thinking to myself..."I wonder if this is nature's way of pushing me to get pregnant again. I'll get you my pretty....if you don't have another baby, I'll come back and haunt you again. tee hee" Well I did get pregnant again a year later, and after that child was born, never again did my cramps return. That really was the worse part of it for me, but I caught a break. I know some women never do, and I feel for them. :-(

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Sun, 10-03-2004 - 7:46am
Nobody can POSSIBLY believe this story . . . sounds like some sick fantasy of a guy sitting in his boxers at his computer behind a woman's name . . .
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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 11:09am
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 8:36am
Thank you for your post. If you will read my posts about the child molestors- you'll see I say I dont like being compared to a child molestor or serial killer. I never said they were calling me either, they were comparing as in an analogy. side note- I love the condesending tone posters here use when trying to talk to me, when in reality they are the ones who are arguing a moot point.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 8:44am
Its amazing how much better I respond to posts such as your own, rather than when people refer to me as having attributes like a molestor, or calling me a slut. Really people, do you think you can reach someone that way?
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 9:00am
According to Webster:

MOOT, a. Subject to argument or discussion, debatable or doubtful.

A MOOT point, a. Impractical or insignificant, theoretical - n. An argument or discussion, esp. of a hypothetical legal case - v.t. To bring forward for discussion.

So, which is it? Insignifcant, or theoretical? It is definitely debatable, and certainly doubtful.

YOU asked the questions....and we're very sorry you don't like the answers you got. Also, you might want to look up Sociopathy on the DSM.

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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 5:35pm
<<>>> LMAO!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 6:34pm
Wildflower, I don't think anyone WAS trying to change your mind, after all, didn't you state that you didn't care what others thought about your choices? Well, maybe your respondants decided to skip the diplomacy and take off the kid gloves to say exactly and plainly what they REALLY feel about your ideas, as well.

I think you made it pretty clear that you feel no responsibility to anyone but yourself.

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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 7:27pm

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