still hurts like hell

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Registered: 02-24-2007
still hurts like hell
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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 9:41pm
me and my bf are very open in bed. and very good:). we talk..we do everything. everything but anal. because it hurts. he is big. (not gigantic..but big!). i relax..i dont "clentch"..i do ..nothing wrong:)) but still hurts. he is patient..we use lubrification..but..STILL HURTS LIKE HELL. we try ..once in a while. (not all the time) tell me something USEFULL..not some "general talk" pls.
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Registered: 12-19-2006
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 9:47pm
Have you tried pushing out (like you are going to poop) while he is entering you? In my personal experience, I have found that it is important to be very worked up (me) and for him to have already had an orgasm. This way, he isn't quite as anxious or as hard, and I'm in the right frame of mind for the activity. Also, the position that has worked for me is a spooning position. The only thing that will really cause pain is tension, so the muscle has to be relaxed. Many people suggest spending time (weeks, months) preparing the anus for entry. They use fingers, toys, lots of anal play for a long period of time, getting the anus ready for larger and larger objects.


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Registered: 01-17-2004
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 10:01pm
Hi :) I tried anal twice, the first time i was drunk...no lube at all..and I was so sore I couldnt sit the next day..lol I swore I would never do it again, and then the next time I was having sex with someone I was very relaxed (i wasnt expectng him to ask for anal..lol) nad then he asked for it and I told him i was scared it would hurt...so he spent a while working it with his finger...and then I guess i stayed relaxed enough and it didnt hurt ;) Soo..lube and working it with the finger a bit..although i dont think I would be willing to stick my finger in someone's ass..lol it does help prep it :D
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 10:31am

Have you though about the fact you may have cought some flush I think it is called ( not sure ). It causes pain during sex intercourse because your vagina is inflamed from this & hurts all the time.

Yet my best advice on this is to take an apointment to the doctor to make sure it's nothuing serious.

Good luck !

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Registered: 02-24-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 10:42am
pay attention pls:) thank anyways for your answer.
my ass hurts (when i try to have anal sex)i`ve tried everything. finger before, lubrication, he is patient ,i relax totally, etc. still...hurts.
my vagina is verry happy and problem free:). my ass it`s giving me a hard time:)
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 11:37am

ohh i was wondering when i red it ( excuse my non english mother langage ) :D

Sorry LOL *blush*

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 4:34pm
Not everyone can tolerate this. Continued pain is certianly a positive sign that your anus don't like it. Maybe you should simply pat yourself on the back and say "what the heck, I gave it a good try ( X'ple times ) and it don't work for me and there is nothing wrong with that. Why does it mean so much to you to accomplish this? You are the one taking on the entire burden of risk with AS and to continue may cause you permanent harm.