stomach "pains"

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Registered: 11-10-2004
stomach "pains"
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 8:46pm
Does anyone ever have the problem of having stomach pains after unprotected sex?? i don't do it often only cuz i don't really wanna get pregnant but when i do have unprotected sex my stomach feels weird for the following week????? don't really wanna ask my doctor about it if i don't have to.. and no im not on birth control so that can't have anything to do with it..
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 11:47pm

Unprotected sex isn't going to give you stomach pains, but fear of pregnancy sure can! If you don't want to get pregnant, then WHY are you not on birth control, or at least using condoms? And what about STD's?

If you don't want to get pregnant, then don't have unprotected sex, and then you won't have stomach pains.

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 7:46am
Im not worried about getting pregnant cuz i do want to in a way but i want to hold off... so im not scared or anything its just yeah i dunno but my stomach not really hurts but feels weird for days after.. and birth control makes my body very achy thats why i got off of it 2 yrs ago.. but heck i've been w/ the same guy for the last 4 yrs so im not worried about getting anything... so you think its cuz im nervous or scared of pregnacy??
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 8:16am

You should not get stomach pains or be uncomfortable


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 8:52am

I agree with Tish. You either want a baby, or you don't. It's not like getting a puppy....and if you decide you don't want all the work involved, you can take it to the pound and forget about it.

A baby is a lifelong commitment. You're legally and morally responsible for that child for 18 years, and that's not the end. You're a mother until the day you die. You get pregnant because you KNOW you're ready for the responsibility, and you KNOW you can provide a loving and happy home for that child. That includes a mother AND a father. It sounds like your b/f is about as ambivalent as you are if he's taking chances that might get you pregnant.

As for b/c making you "achy"......that's something that your doctor should know, and there are lots of different kinds of b/c, patches, shots, implants, IUD's.....your body should be able to handle something until you're SURE you're ready to be a mother.

You've been with your b/f for four years. Have you ever discussed having a baby with him? Does HE want one? Hopefully you're not thinking that you getting pregnant will make him want to be a father, or make him want to stay with you for the rest of your life.

Until you make all these important decisions, you need to NOT get pregnant. And yes, I do think the pains are emotional rather than physical. There's nothing in semen that would give you pains for a week......if you don't have pains when a condom is used.

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Registered: 04-18-2005
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 5:24pm
you might need to take yourself to the dept of health and take an std test. stomach pains are usually a sign of clymadia
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Registered: 11-10-2004
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 6:08pm
Okay here.. as far as a baby yes i definatly want a child thats no question.. hell i work in a day care i love kids to death.. but as far as money i don't want a kid right now but i won't be hurt if i do have one... if that sounds better theres no kinda about it i definatly want a child my b/f knows also. but we are not trying right now.. as far as the askin doctor part no i just haven't wanted to ask my doctor cuz i haven't yet found a doctor that i can talk to and trust..the last doctor couldn't even figure out i had poisin ivy i had to go to a dermatologist to figure it out and they didn't contact me for a week to tell me i had strep... so yeah im in the process of finding a doctor right now.. and takin myself to get checked for std's i've been w/ the same guy for 4 yrs he's the only one i have ever slept w/ and same w/ him im his first and only so yeah he nor i have std's i had my pap just a few months ago everything is fine... but i don't know why my stomach feels like that.. and yes my doctor that i was seeing did know about the b/c she never put me on anything else so i didn't bother askin cuz i know there are some negatives in takin b/c... my cousin got blood clots from taking b/c so i don't mind being off of it..
thanx