Stop masturbation

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Stop masturbation
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Fri, 06-13-2008 - 1:15am

I'm planning to get married in

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 1:49am

First of all, you shouldn't HAVE to stop it.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 7:07am

Personally, unless you are not physically available to have an intimate relationship with her, then I don't think your masturbation habits are any of her business. If she hates masturbation, then she shouldn't do it.

You can still be considerate of her feelings .... don't leave evidence around, don't watch porn if she has an issue with that, don't do it while laying in bed next to her, those sorts of things. I wouldn't recommend lying to her if she straight out asks you, but at this early stage, you could tell her that this topic is one that the two of you will have to agree to disagree about.

Her issues with masturbation may change over time. Letting her know that you think masturbation is healthy would be a good step in helping her realize that it is healthy. There's plenty of articles on the internet that you could even have her read, backing up your own thoughts on the topic.



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Registered: 10-28-2006
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 9:45am

hi there


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Registered: 10-04-2006
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 12:53pm

If I were you I would seriously be looking at where this was going. If, at this point, she's insisting that you stop masturbating then what's next?

Masturbation is a healthy and normal activity. It serves to relieve sexual tension and frustration, it promotes a healthy prostate, it can greatly enhance the intimacy and bond a couple share...and IT'S YOUR BODY! As long as it doesn't interfere with your ability to share love and passion with her she has absolutely no right to tell you that you cannot masturbate.

Bottom line, your masturbation is not the problem, her demand most certainly is and to me is an indication of some serious issue that really needs to be addressed.


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Registered: 02-12-2008
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 2:42pm
You need to find out what her next demand will be.......she just might not be the lady you want to spend your life with.

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Registered: 08-28-1998
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 3:18pm

Is this a religious issue for her?

I suggest that you have a heart to heart and discuss these kinds of issues. Try to resolve these differences. As bad as breaking and engagement may be, making each other miserable to mush worse. It can be difficult see clearly when you are "in love", are you two really compatible?

For example, DW & I are cradle Catholics. We go to church with children every week. We do not obey every silly rule. It would drive me crazy to be married to a Catholic girl who strictly obeyed every church rule.
No condoms. After our second child, a had a vasectomy(another sin. No oral sex to completion. Every male ejaculation must take place inside the vagina. I still have my Playboy subscription. We have many toys that are used to get her off. etc etc etc.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 4:34pm

You must love her very much and it's admirable that you are trying to meet her demand.

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Registered: 03-03-2008
In reply to: muthup
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 10:50am

If SHE hates it then SHE shouldn't do it.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
In reply to: muthup
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 6:01pm
This is a red flag in my opinion.

 


 


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Registered: 05-04-2008
In reply to: muthup
Sun, 06-15-2008 - 9:05am
I do agree with you, Big Red Flag!

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