Strange or Not Strange..That is the Q
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| Sun, 01-30-2005 - 2:28pm |
Okie...Well...*blushing* My DH and I have had a fantastic weekend exploring each other's boundaries...I've broken out of my sexual shell, shall we say, and blossomed into my DH's little dirty minded nympho..That's not the problem...And the sex with my DH isn't the problem..Its always utterly fantastic...Before I get to the question, I need to have a little clarity so that everyone may either laugh at me, offer advice, or tell me how deranged I am...When having sex with my DH, I love listening to him talk about his fantasies with me. One of them was to have anal sex...After much mental debate, I did do it with him and found it quite exhilarating and intoxicating. Well, this afternoon we were in the throes of some sweet sex when I let it slip out that I wish I could turn the tables on him...My DH has always said, "I wish we could switch bodies for a day and have sex so you can see what I see and why I like it and so I can see what you see and feel and understand why you like it." (I remember everything he says)...Well, I told him that I wish I had a strap-on so that I could return the anal favor and so that he can understand the feelings I get from it...Only, I swear like a fishwife in bed, so it was a lot dirtier than just that. So now, my questions are these: Is this strange? And if this has been done by anybody, how was it received? I'm quite satisfied with my sex life with my DH..And I love the experimentation..I love being a woman and embrace my female parts. And I love that he's a man. To me he's incredibly sexy and just turns me on even when he's not naked. I can't keep my hands off him or his penis away from me...I like domination..I love to dominate from time to time in bed and he never minds...But, I'm afraid on this one...I'll pose the questions again? Is this strange? And if this has been done by anybody, how was it received? Please don't bash me..Just offer some friendly advice. Thanks! :)
JennieKG

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No, you are not strange at all.
It's NOT strange, and it's not unusual. Not everyone thinks it's something hot to try, but that's their business. Whatever two consenting adults choose to do in the privacy of their own bedroom is THEIR business, and no one elses. I might think it's kinky, but that's ME, and no one says I have to do it. I might do some things that you would think were weird, but to me they're normal. It's all in what you're comfortable with.
If it sounds fun to you, and he's willing to give it a try, then DO it! Maybe just try using your fingers, or some other "tool" before investing in the expensive equipment. See how he likes THAT, and if he does, then go for the real thing.
By "tool" I mean something like a small cucumber, or large carrot (large end first, of course). Use your imagination. If you have a vibrator, try that on him.
Don't worry what other people think about it, they're not there, and no one but the two of you will know about it, and of course, US, if you choose to come back and tell us how it went.
Hi Jennie,
Nothing strange about your desire at all, and if he's willing, go for it. Many men (myself included) like anal play as the prostate gland is accessable via the anus and massaging it can bring on an orgasm even without touching the penis.
However, not all guys are comfortable with a strap on (that's me, I enjoy fingers and tongue), but others are...just go with what is fun for both of you and respect each other's limits.
Good luck.
Scott.
Hi all!
When I blurted out my fantasy to my husband he perked up! I've been stimulating him through his anus for months now. It all started because I got curious. At first I was a little frightened of myself and of the actual act. But, when I saw what pleasure it brought him, then I lightened up to it. After I let it slide that I would love to do that to him, he immediately said, "Ok! Let's give it a try!" I already have a vibrator, so we broke it out and I lubed him up and the vibrator up like he asked and slid right in there...Let's just say, I learned that if you're going to do this make sure you haven't already had a shower...I was being a bit cruel and I turned it on to vibrate and whoosh! The next thing I know I'm pulling sperm out of my hair. He said he liked it and when we have the money to go down and buy a strap-on. I was excited. He said it was a secret fantasy of his to be in my position when he penetrates me. He said he never told me because he was afraid I would think he was a pervert..Well, hello dolly! So, it was such a wonderful experience for us both and I think that when the mood is just right, we're going to do it again. And the favors always get returned in our bedroom. Thanks all! I don't feel so weird after all! :)
That's great that it's worked out so well for you. I've always been a little turned-on by the idea of my partner using a strap-on on me, but it's not something that we've had the courage to follow through on. I think that she's worried about how much she'd enjoy it too - I know that the idea turns her on but I think that at the same time she finds it a little outside her comfort zone too.
Good to hear that you're having fun!
This is curiosity only, but West brought up something that I've always been curious about. West, this question is for you, but I'd appreciate others' answers as well.
What is it that makes a lady out of her comfort zone with this...yet...she has such an interest in it anyway.
Now I could just go back to my coffee before work and simply say that the answer is or something, but lets just play inquisitive and get some answers anyway, cause I'm willing to bet there different ones.
thanks in advance all
C H A R A C T E R
IF he responded with interest, then give it a try.
My DH and I had this conversation about "switching bodies" in order to understand one another's experience better. I don't think this is uncommon.
And I don't think you should worry whether your desire to dominate him in bed is normal or not. If he's receptive to the idea, give it a try.
Edited 1/31/2005 9:58 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
One of my fantasies would be for my DW to do me with a strap-on. But I don't know how I would bring it up or bring one home.
CH
IF I thought she would, I would do that. We went into an adult store in Tacoma while we were there ... she was very uncomfortable ...
CH
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