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Fri, 11-26-2004 - 10:37am
Here's something I wouldn't know where else to ask but maybe on this board! You hear about preferences for breast and penis size (or at least issues), but I've never heard of this. I've had several boyfriends over the years tell me about their preference on labia size - how they liked women with "more pronounced" or larger labia than I had. Now, these guys got immediately chucked for saying something like that - who would say something like that to their partner? But hearing about it from these men has made me wonder if it is an issue to men.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 8:37am

I'm kind of curious how you managed to have several discussions that involved labia size. Is this some kind of new fixation with an age group different from mine (I'm 54).

I've been married twice. Neither of the women were "perfect" as far as my physical preferences go. I'm sure I wasn't physically perfect for them, either. In a real relationship, other things are more important than breast or labia or penis size. If labia size is a deal breaker, then you deserve better.

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Registered: 11-27-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 11:10am

When someone loves you, you are the ****BEST**** to them. You love everything about them because it's their's. I remember when I first met my hubby and I saw his body for the first time. He was one hairy man. Hair all over his back, as black as the ace of spades. I had **NEVER** seen anything like it. The strangest thing happened though. I fell in love with it because it was a part of him. He too was self-conscious about it before he met me, but not anymore.

Your labia is a part of you, and it's perfect just the way it is. And when you meet the man who falls in love with you, it will become the ***BEST*** to him.

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Registered: 06-08-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 11:37am

I couldn't agree with you more. The more in love a person is with the person they are with, the more and more "perfect" they become, even on a basic, instinctual level. I've noticed this a great deal. My now-husband is the love of my life. When we dated in the past, it was his features that became more and more attractive to me, the more we loved each other. Then, we were apart for a long time, and I noticed that men that looked like him caught my eye. In other words, I acquired a taste based on my *feelings* for the man. After we got back together, he was still the "perfect" guy for me. He's had the same reaction to me and all my parts...I'm "perfect" to him.

So many men say and think this (like the poster before you): "Neither of the women were "perfect" as far as my physical preferences go."

Many, many men get this mind-set, this fantasy image in their heads, it stays with them, and the real women in their lives never quite measure up. To be so focused on "combination of colors" and other irrevalent things (blonde/blue, who cares?)..things that many women change or experiment with, from contact lenses to hair dye? This focus is immature, in my humble opinion. And now with thousands of porn images honing the immature perspective of a perfect fantasy girl in their minds (picking from various parts of various women), they include favorite shades of nipples and labias as "perfect" and others "not perfect". Love, acceptance and a mature and realistic mind can fade a fantasy image to a real image, with the real image of a real person being "perfect" to you, when the one you adore influences and overrides the fantasies that the mind forms earlier in life.

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