strapon sex

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Registered: 08-03-2007
strapon sex
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 7:11pm
I am interested in anal sex.I'm looking for advice on how to ask my girlfriend,to use a strapon on me.I don't want her to think i'm a freek or gay.How can i bring it up.Any info you have would be good.
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Registered: 08-12-2004
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:12pm

Hi all,
Haven't been around in a few moons, but this has been a fantasy of mine for years.
My ex/W did it to me once and I loved it.
My GF of 7 years has only played a very little with me anally, actually about 3-4 times in our 7 years, the last was the other night and I finally coaxed her (grabbed and pushed actually) her to insert a finger while giving me a BJ. It was awesome and my orgasm went on and on. I hope that my reaction and all was enough that she will continue.
I have one time asked her (after one of the times she played back there) if she would do me with a strap-on and she simply said "no". Shut me right down.

I really wish more women were like the ones here in that they research and look for new was to please their partners, and are open minded enough to know it is not gay.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:39pm
Hey man, I'm right in there with you! It'a frustrating and maddening! Then you come here and the ladies are all, for the most part, hell yeah. I do envy thier husbands, and hope that they are appreciated. Meanwhile we are left standing wondering where it was that we got in the wrong line. I am afraid, my friends, we must suffer in silence, pray for Egalite liberte, vive le resistance.

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:57pm

It sounds like your GF might be opening up, as you were able to coax her to insert her finger. I think some people might think "gay" when they are afraid that a man liking any anal pleasure could mean he is gay, or if the person is looking for an excuse to not like anal play in the first place.

IMO, if I was a guy, I would be highly offended if the female refused me yet enjoyed anal play herself. Many, many women enjoy anal sex but somehow that is not viewed as gay. I think if it is explained to them that way, it can make a difference, or at least open their mind enough to think it through.

I also believe that people continue to develop sexually. If your GF is willing to give you any kind of anal stimulation, then it's likely that she could continue to open up and provide you with more, or different types of, anal stimulation.



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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:08pm

I believe it was our Rice71 who once made this comparison...

If it's gay for a man to enjoy anal sex, then wouldn't it be gay for a woman to enjoy cunnilingus? Of course not! ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:14pm

Take baby steps. My husband and I didn't engage in anal play until much later in the game.

To ask a woman to put on a strap on is a little too pushy. Start small. Ask her to rub the sweet spot; then after she becomes comfortable with that, ask her to insert just the tip of her finger; then ask her to insert the whole finger; then get a dildo...and so on.

Honestly, I personally wouldn't feel right wearing a strap on, although I have no problem inserting a dildo. The strap on just would make me feel like a man--probably like a man would feel wearing lingerie.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:36pm

Misty, i am in love!

You are so right on the money, I mean exactly! Why is it perfectly okay for a girl to enjoy anal play but not a guy. Especially since it is a part of the anatomy that we share in common..IF it feels good for the ladies it's gonna feel good for the guys.

By that smae token, I think no guy should expect it of his lady if he won't go turnabout!

Rock on Misty

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:54pm

Rain

The ladies that i have done this with, that have come to enjoy the strapon, have said that it is a bit strange at first, but once they got the movements down, experienced the sensuality and sense of empowerment, they were totally into it. they said the exact same thing you just did at first.

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 4:26pm

I'll keep that in mind.

So does the same hold true for lingerie? ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 4:31pm

ROTFLMAO. I have never gone there, I would if she wanted but so far i'm not seeing silk panties in my future.

LOL

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 6:59pm
Aw, come'on Scott. I know you'd do it "for her," but do you really think that you'd eventually get into it? I don't think so. . . tee hee
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )