strapon sex

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Registered: 08-03-2007
strapon sex
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 7:11pm
I am interested in anal sex.I'm looking for advice on how to ask my girlfriend,to use a strapon on me.I don't want her to think i'm a freek or gay.How can i bring it up.Any info you have would be good.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:27pm
actually, I think womens's underwear feels nice, and I can imagine gettng off on wearing her panties, especially if I knew it really made her hot. The problem is that I just dont have that kind of build. I am athletic and broad, imagine linebacker! As far as cross dressing, if that's what you mean, no not my thing, and the undies only turn me on if they are hers and she had worn them, so they smelled of her.
It was really strange for me to feel sexy the first time I shaved everythng, I mean, it felt good but I looked at it and well, had to chuckle. Of course, it does appear to make one look more endowed, but i am good there. For me, the challange was getting over how it looked to me, as long as it made her hot. I am really pretty open to most anything. It would turn me on because it turns her on. As far as strapon, believe it or not I am tryng to come up with an idea that would make strap on sex intensely enjoyable and orgasmic, I am talking G spot here, with any dildo you might want to use.

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:43pm

"...problem is that I just dont have that kind of build. I am athletic and broad, imagine linebacker!"

Well...I do not think that a lot of women have linebacker builds either to be donning a strap on. ;-)

The point is, that yes, of course we want to do things that excite our partner, but if they make us feel out of sorts, it could backfire (no pun intended). ;-) Maybe it's just me, but I don't get excited if I know my DH is not getting turned on or into whatever it is he's doing. For some reason, I get unexcited (hence backfire).

Now on the opposite end of the spectrum, there's the "Zorro" garb... (phew!)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:51pm

I guess I should have read the thread first before responding, as I basically repeated what Tish and some of the others have said. Serves me right, but sometimes I don't have the time and read the OP and just want to get my thoughts down.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 8:06pm
Yep, I see what you are saying. I like that look as well, as well as the buccaneer type with the flowing shirt. the thiing with the strapon is, now this is for me, that it isn't supposed to make my partner assume the mail role at all. even in role play, she may be dominant but still she is a she. The strap on stays a toy not necessarily a pretend penis. I don't get into sucking on it etc, I'll eat her while she wears it but that's it. Now, you know how you said you didn't mind using a dildo, well imagine the dildo with part of it inside you, and part rubbing you clit. So, now you can get off maybe even with a g spot orgasm from using the strapon instead of just going through the motion. i want my partner to have just as much pleasure as I do, maybe even more!

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 8:16pm
*In making love and having vaginal, or anal, intercourse with my partner I never feel like I give dominant or subordinant any consideration. I may be on top, she may be on top, I may initiate or she might. Now I realize that part of the turn on, for some women, is the power they feel from having the strapon, and of course it goes without saying for role play, but does it always have to cme down to a power/control thing. I like the equality, each pleasing and being pleased. Is it just me?*

D/s power exchange during sex can be powerfully erotic, and a huge turn-on for both participants.



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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 10:34pm
Oh yeah, I totally agree Steve, I'm with you on that, and I love to go there, as well as to be the one being dominated. I can switch, but, for me, beceuse of my past experience I can let go a lot easier when I am sub. I love being my girls bitch, so to speak.
Then there are times when the strapon play is purely the pleasure of having her do that with me, along with the pleasure of knowing she will cum hard as well. It has nothing to do with power or control, just the pleasure of having her inside me, in a sense. The feeling of her grabbing my hips and penetrating me, the way i might enter her. Feeling her get close and dig her fingers in, then really give it to me before she loses it. It just means more to me than power exchange.

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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 05-30-2007
In reply to: m00re79
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 12:36am

I agree with you. To me it's all about pleasing each other not who is in control...

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Registered: 03-11-2005
In reply to: m00re79
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 5:19am
DW always uses an anal toy to massage my prostate while she gives me a BJ. Really intensifies my orgasms. We may try a strap on some day, but I can't imagine it being better than toys; however, we are both open to using a strap on. We watch role reversal DVD'S and talk about what is going on. DW loves to use toys on me. By the way, the idea that this is gay is nuts. I am straight as an arrow. I have been told that very few gays actually do this, but they do BJ'S more and there is no question that a BJ between a guy and a gal is not gay. Everyone have fun with your wild, kinky sex.

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