Stretched out?

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Registered: 07-09-2005
Stretched out?
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Sat, 07-09-2005 - 8:01pm
Last March, my boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up. We had regular sex for the entire time we dated, and he had a large penis. Now I'm seeing someone new, and he is considerably smaller. This is no problem to me, but he didn't come when we had sex. Could it be that I'm "stretched out" from my previous, well-endowed boyfriend and it isn't tight enough for my new guy??? Or since it was a first time, maybe it was a nerves thing??? i'm worried!

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 9:58pm

"Sorry for the misunderstanding, raindancer. What I need is agreement or disagreement about the hypothesis or point I am trying to make: different stimulii can produce different levels of tightness from the same woman"

OK...I agree.

"So, a woman can feel different (looser/tighter, wetter/drier, etc.) based on a lot of factors, no?"

Yes....many of which were mentioned over and over again.

"If JoeAverage is pretty much getting a mercy-lay from one of the sisters (thereby causing little lube, making it tighter, -or- less vasodilation, making it looser, -or- less nerves , making it looser, etc.) the snugness of said vagina can and will be different from the twin sister who could be totally into Joe."

Yeppers.

"I hate to use kachstre as an example as if she wasn't here, but here goes. If this "smaller" guy doesn't turn her on as much as her previous boyfriend did (for whatever reason), isn't it possible that she could really not be as "tight-feeling" as she was with her ex??"

Yes.

"For that matter if this guy is turning her on a lot more than her ex, couldn't some of these factors also make her feel looser as well?"

Yes.

This, more and more, is what I'm hearing in a roundabout fashion, but for some reason, is never being addressed directly.

Sounds like you got it. ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 10:55pm

It sounds as though her perenium may have been stretched during pregnancy, which would explain the easier entry. Kegels(or orgasming frequently) should take care of it.

Most likely her vagina could have accommodated a fist prior to the first pregnancy as well....it's not some impossible feat that only women who have had children can do. ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 12-24-2003
In reply to: kachstre
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 11:32pm
Thank you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:34am
Relaxation and stretching are two very different things. As people age, ALL their muscles begin to relax unless conscious effort is made to keep them toned. That would apply to vaginal muscles as well.


Edited 7/13/2005 1:08 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:36am
I guess Mutt is willing to use one example from one man's experience to say that all women stretch out after childbirth. I believe you and I have already said that we didn't, didn't we?
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:46am

OMG! What a discussion! Looks like it's just about resolved though....but I'll throw my two cents in anyway... :-)

Dear Abbey,
I've been eating sausages for years now. I like to stick them in my mouth and eat them whole. Today, my butcher told me that he can only supply me with weiners. What am I to do? I'm afraid that the weiners will fall out of my mouth because it's been stretched out from eating big sausage all these years. Have my mouth and lips really been stretched out? Will I EVER be able to enjoy weiners again?

Dear Abbey,
I really enjoy eating big salamis. I like how I have to stretch my lips and mouth to fit it in. I'm worried though. I just don't think that a weiner will do it for me. In fact, I may not even be able to feel a weiner if I try to eat one. And even worse, the weiner may not know that it's being eaten! What do you think?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:55am
LOL!
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Registered: 12-24-2003
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 1:06am

>>Relaxation and stretching are two very different things.<<

To the woman, of course, but would a man be able to tell the difference? See my point now? All a man would be able to tell is his penis had no difficulty entering her vagina and there was too little friction to keep hard and orgasm.

Going back to the original responses, it was stupid to reply the way they replied to begin with. A woman can be loose or tight depending on so many factors. To simply say, "No, you cannot be stretched by a larger penis from your past." is too simplistic. This is why so much drivel is on women's magazines, so much misinformation from too many old wives tales.

You people are hopelessly out of touch.

katmandoo asked:

>>Does every vagina feel the same to you?<<

Absolutely not! The younger women tend to have tighter vaginas. It could be estrogen, it could be lack of experience. Generally the women over 50 I've had sex with were looser. Generally, the women over 50 were out of shape too.

It could be muscle tone. We could start a whole discussion about tight buns in correlation with tight twats!

Have a good day, this is my last post on this forum o' fluff.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 1:11am
Sorry to hear it, but disagreements and debates will always occur on opinion boards like these. But I disagree, again, no opinion is stupid, not even yours. If you don't enjoy that, then I understand. Sorry.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 8:04am

Westie, you left the poor bologna completely out of the picture!


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