Stretched out?

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Registered: 07-09-2005
Stretched out?
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Sat, 07-09-2005 - 8:01pm
Last March, my boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up. We had regular sex for the entire time we dated, and he had a large penis. Now I'm seeing someone new, and he is considerably smaller. This is no problem to me, but he didn't come when we had sex. Could it be that I'm "stretched out" from my previous, well-endowed boyfriend and it isn't tight enough for my new guy??? Or since it was a first time, maybe it was a nerves thing??? i'm worried!

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 10:46am

Yes, I did Kat.

I mean, I could easily believe what I've heard, that once a man turns 40 his erections aren't quite as....well....erect.....but I won't. ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 10:55am
I too am sorry, Mutt that you thought my information was, fluff. I try and give of my own experience as best as I can. ;-) You've been posting on this board for so long, I'd hate to see you just up and leave like that.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 11:01am
...thank you blonde.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:01pm
Would you mind if I asked you your age and whether or not you've had any children through vaginal delivery? Thanks in advance.


Edited 7/13/2005 12:02 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: kachstre
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 10:17pm

Ah! The poor lonely bologna!

Actually, I wasn't entirely joking with that post. That's more or less how I see the whole debate. I can't see why it's so difficult to believe that your average vagina can fit everything from small to large penises and not get permanently stretched out.

Take a mouth for example, or rather your lips. Purse them into an 'O' shape. That's how your average vagina is. It's not such a silly analogy - it's an orifice surrounded by voluntary and involuntary muscles with a boney supporting structure around it (think jawbone/pelvis).

It's flexible enough to accommodate a large penis. It's even capable of accommodating a small penis and feeling good. Take the penis away and your lips go back to normal size. If your lip muscles have good muscle tone, it's going to feel better regardless of size and probably better if it's smaller. If you're good at relaxing your jaw and mouth and throat muscles you'll be able to take a bigger penis without pain or effort.

You reach a limit with a big penis though. And this is where the women that enjoy the stretched or filled feeling come in. Your lips will accommodate most penises comfortably but then you reach a point where they will actually be stretched by an enormous penis. But they won't ever be strectched out permanently. They will return to normal size (and that's probably a good thing for women that give well-endowed men BJs!).

By the way, it's going to take more than 10 or 15 minutes gentle stretching every day or two to permanently stretch out your jaw and mouth.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: kachstre
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 8:25am
The reason she was "tighter" was because she was nervous.....and who wouldn't be with a new partner AND 10 years since the last time?
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Registered: 05-12-2005
In reply to: kachstre
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 8:49am
That's a good point. But people on both sides of this debate make good points. On the one hand, tampons stay in, and even at their largest they are still smaller than a penis. But on the other hand, going back to the penis size discussion, almost all women say they prefer a larger one. They say it feels better, that's why I think there may be something to the getting stretched out argument, if there wasn't, the vagina would just expand to a small one as well a large one and it would feel the same.I really don't know who's right, but that's a compelling enough argument for me to play it safe.
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Registered: 07-09-2005
In reply to: kachstre
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 11:00am
I am 22, soon to be 23. No kids.
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Registered: 07-09-2005
In reply to: kachstre
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 11:03am

Interesting point....makes me think back to Mr. Big and maybe this makes sense...

Towards the end of our 3 year relationship, feelings just weren't there and I knew the breakup was coming. During that time, sex was difficult, it sort of hurt actually, when it hadn't before. So no feelings, not turned on, not relaxed, tight/difficult sex??

With JoeAverage its the opposite, it's new, sparks are flying, he's GORGEOUS and i'm completely turned on, so more relaxed, more lubrication, looser feel?

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Registered: 07-09-2005
In reply to: kachstre
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 11:15am

Another twist to my whole original problem...wasn't sure if i should post this here or make a new thread but here it goes.

Another round last night, another no-go for him. He was wearing a condom, so I asked if he came. He said no, could tell I looked dejected, but then said you know why i don't, right? I explained I didn't, thought it was me, and he assured me it was ok and wasn't because of me and said it was because of the condom. Do a lot of guys have trouble climaxing when wearing a condom?? He didn't say it like he wanted to do it without one or anything, but I'm not on the Pill anymore so it looks like a condom is my only choice right now.

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