Stupid,i know

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Registered: 12-26-2006
Stupid,i know
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Wed, 12-27-2006 - 5:39am
Stupid question i know. Im new to the whole sex thing,my partner has been with a large amount of women,so is extremely experienced. He asks me if i will go "missionary" and "doggy style" ... What are they? is doggy style, coming from behind into the vagina or anal sex? and is missionary the girl ontop? Sorry for sounding like a 12 year old lol.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: angel_086
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:15am

There are no stupid questions, only stupid answers! Being new to sex, of course you're not going to know everything there is to know.

"Missionary" means man on top, and there are lots of variations on that, too. (it was named that because when the missionaries went to the Pacific Islands to convert the natives, they were shocked at the fact that the natives "enjoyed" sex, and in those days, sex was strictly for procreation, not pleasure.......so they came up with this position, or so the story goes!) "Doggie style" is exactly what you picture, the man "mounting" the woman from behind, and it's very popular. It is NOT anal sex....it's vaginal. Anal sex is anal sex, and can be done in several postions, including missionary and doggie.

I have two other bits of information for you, too. When a man suggests something that you don't understand, then you have to ask HIM what he's talking about. He knows you're not experienced, and he doesn't expect you to know everything.....and you need to ASK....that is the only way you learn!

Secondly, don't confuse "experience" (lots of partners) with "knowledge". There are MANY men who are supposedly experienced, but they don't have a CLUE about how you please a woman. That might be because they were never with an experienced woman, and were never taught how to "make love" as opposed to "wham bam" sex. If they were only with inexperienced women like you, they had no way of learning, because it takes time for women to learn what they need and like during sex...and they have to learn to speak up and ASK for what they want if they're not getting it.

It's your life, and your body, and you need to know everything there is to know about your body, and what it takes to make you happy during sex (all women are different, something else many men don't understand! What worked for their last partner might not work for you, and they need to ask each new partner what they like and want! The same goes for women. Whatever you learn from this guy might not be what the next guy likes. The only way of knowing is to be able to DISCUSS sex openly!)

A good place to learn about your body is www.the-clitoris.com Also, make sure you understand reproduction, and how STD's are spread. You don't want to come up with a surprise pregnancy or down with a surprise disease. It's easy for BOTH to happen if you don't know what causes them, and "experienced" men are the ones at risk for disease if they have ever had sex without condoms.....which many do.

Learn about yourself and your body and learn to talk openly about it, and you'll have a good sex life.

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Registered: 12-26-2006
In reply to: angel_086
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 6:14pm
Hi,Thanks very much for that!! Helpful. I know about the "what some women like,some dont" because he often does something to me that i told him i dont like that his ex liked.
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Registered: 04-27-2006
In reply to: angel_086
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 10:15pm
Yes definately use condoms for protection from STD's as well as pregnancy, preferably Trojan Latex, they are the most reliable.