sugarmagnolia2..just wondering about you

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sugarmagnolia2..just wondering about you
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 4:52am
i was just thinking about you and just wondered how you have been "making out" i hope all is well and getting better with your b/f :)
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 2:56pm

That is so thoughtful of you, Kriss! Thank you! We are doing great. We have gotten over a lot of "humps" (hahah no pun intended) in our relationship, but there is a lot to work on. I hate to say this, but even though we are both pretty much at the same level of experience, I think I have more of a skill for things of a "sexual manner" than he does..haha.. Valentine's day was great(even though we had bad service at this fancy restaurant he took me to...its the whole "poor kids" stigma i suppose...not fair!) and we made love for the first time w/o a condom. I didn't think it felt that much different. But maybe it has to do with the fact that he is uncircumsized? But what do i know...still clueless! I'm learning everyday! But, he seriously wants to do it more and more now that i am on birth control and not using condoms. The bad thing about it is that he cums SOOOOOOOOO quickly now. I barely feel it now because he's in and out! Ahhh..we have to work on that.
I'm getting over my anxieties with birth control..this is my first time on it and I am naturally paranoid!

Thank you so much for asking about me! I really do appreciate it!

S

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 2:56am
i'm soooooooooo glad to hear things are getting better! sorry about the restaraunt, but i'm sure you two made up for it later *wink* Things will get better i promise, and there are things you can do to "slow down " you b\f so things don't end so fast....:) keep me posted....
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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 7:28pm
ohhh what kind of "things" do you recommend? He does need to slow down. When he is super horny, he will come in a matter of minutes. But when he is just, eh so so horny, or i want to do it again after we pretty much just did it, it takes him longer...and i like that..haha. He just doesn't have the whole thrusting thing down yet. He doesn't realize how hard he needs to do it for me to actually feel it...ahh i am to harsh on the kid!LOL
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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 12:23am
there are so many things :) but 1 tried and trusted method is to reach down to the base of his penis where it meets the sctrotum sack and apply gentle pressure. that usually slows down the ejaculation, or you two can either perform oral or "manual"(hand jobs the first time around, you both have orgasims and then the second or third time it will take longer. Also, if you have him stop thrusting when he feels himself begining to hit climax and not move for a moment that not only slows him down but allows you to slow down as well so that both of you have EXTREME orgasims...... as far as thrusting, try a pillow under your backside to elavate yourself. penatration is deeper that way. talk to him tell him what you like. you can control the speed of his thrusting by locking your legs around his waist and when you want him to slow down squeeze your thighs.. he'll get the hint!!!! have fun girl!!!!!
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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 12:11pm
Ohh thanks for the tips...That pillow thing seems like a good idea. Will try it!
Just curious, how long did it take you to have your first orgasm from penetration?
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:59am
hey girl!!! well, it actually took me about a year, cuz i'm very clitoral, and i found that if i had a glass of red wine and concentrated on my breathing, kind of tantric breathing, that i was able to relax enough... and WOW!!! talk about fireworks!!!