Suggestions, anyone?

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Suggestions, anyone?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 1:46am
I have only been married for a little over 3 years and the sex is just not exciting anymore. Don't get me wrong it is still good and I get mine but this is the longest I have ever been with one person and I am finding it really hard to get all excited about sex cause well I pretty much know how it is going to go. Does anyone have any suggestion. Any guys out there that want to give me any advise on how a man would like a little spice in the bedroom feel free!!!!! Anything is great! Thanks
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:31am
If you know how it is going to go, then change things around.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 10:50am

When one or the other partner, usually both, in a relationship stop making an effort to keep sex exciting, then sex CAN become routine. IF you're bored, then it's likely that you've become boring.

But it's also about readjusting your attitude and beliefs about sex, as well. If your belief is that sex should always be about hanging from the chandelier, wild and crazy, than you're setting yourself up for disappointment. No one, not even the best partner, can sustain that level of excitement throughout a long relationship.....and you've only been married 3 YEARS! You're still in the honeymoon period!

Look at every experience as an opportunity to please your partner, to open up new feelings and learn about HIM or HER, and you will find that you end up pleasing yourself as well. Change your focus, in other words. Usually, that personal change in attitude inspires the partner to do the same.

My DH and I have been together 30 yrs. and we have a great sex life but we WORK on it. After a period of time, it takes loving care and concern, time, attention and effort to keep a good thing going. You simply cannot depend on your hormones to do that for you forever.




Edited 12/15/2005 10:54 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 11:15pm
Thanks for the advice I will keep it all in mind. I know we are still young and that why I was worried. I thought that if I am already kinda bored what the heck is gonna happen in 20 years. Thanks again for all the advice from you and everyone else.