Sustain lust?

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Registered: 10-09-2003
Sustain lust?
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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 11:50am
After reading many of the responses regarding average duration of intercourse, I was curious as to what your preferred method is. With clitoral stimulation and intercourse, I can probably orgasm in less than five minutes and my DH could also, even without foreplay, but we enjoy the feeling of lust, so we make it linger whenever possible. I guess my question(after reading some of the responses), is do you enjoy quickies more than sustained lust, and if you had your choice to forego foreplay all together would you? I might have read too much into some of the responses, but that was my feel anyhow. Is the quicker the better orgasm the ultimate goal?

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 2:50pm
Honey, did you ever check with your SO to see if he deliberately slowed down his climax in order to pleasure you longer during intercourse? Refer to my post #15 in the "duration of intercourse thread".

taoist
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 3:01pm
no tao, i haven't asked him....why do you suggest i do?

    

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 3:05pm
Same with us and probably with most couples but the thread is about quick orgasms. And since I could never orgasm as quickly as my DH does, then that isn't a "quickie" in our definition. Although, if I'm not really in the mood and my DH is, then we will often have a quickie for his benefit....but it's not the norm for us, nor is it our preferred routine.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 5:56pm
I think that's the correct thinking of a quickie. Hard to be quick during foreplay. So it's mainly just put it in and go! ha-ha! I think the best places for quickies are places outside of the bedroom. Somewhere where your SO can lean you over - a table, a countertop, etc and just go for it.


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Registered: 01-08-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 6:45pm
We like short and long sessions. Quickies can be fun especially if there has been some verbal foreplay during the day. If we change positions or stop intercourse after it has begun, my husband can prolong the time before he orgasms. Sometimes we do that. But generally we just spend more time in foreplay and then finish with intercourse.

Robin

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:00pm
To let him know how much you appreciate him and enjoy the prolonged intercourse. If he is doing it deliberately, he'll be very flattered that you noticed and expressed appreciation of his efforts. If it isn't deliberate ( if he's just slow to orgasm like I am), he'll be flattered that you noticed and expressed appreciation of his natural ability. Kind of a "win-win" situation, huh?

taoist

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